Post # 1
im only 21 and im hating myself right now. I’m engaged to the greatest man every my nerdy chris 🙂 but for the past year ive wanted a baby. we have a puppy which helps me at times. but i still want to have a baby with him but we currently live in a one bedroom apartment and i work at walmart and he works at radioshack. i feel like i will never be able to improve myself because i was able to get an interview with a bank and thought i was going to get it but they never called back. it felt like my chance to improve and make us more money went out the window :(. i feel as though eveything i skeeping me from a house and a baby and everytime i get a chance it goes out the window….help bees!
Post # 3
You have plenty of time! Tons of time! If you are worried about money just keep on working on finding better employment. There are better jobs out there, but don’t give up after one interview.
Post # 4
Whoa whoa whoa! You have your whole life ahead of you. Make a list, or even a visual list (list a collage) of everything you want to accomplish. Then start taking steps. You can have whatever you want if you prepare for it.
Do not put all your “eggs” in one basket as far as jobs go. Never do that. Don’t think twice – apply to 20, 30, 50 jobs.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
It’s normal to want to have a baby when you feel settled and loved and it sounds like you do. From personal experience I would say wait another year or two. Twenty-one is so young and there is so much to experience in life that you would have to put on hold if you have a baby now. Plus, if your posted wedding date is correct you’re planning a wedding and honestly a lot of relationships change the first year of marriage, for better and for worse. It’s easier to deal with those changes as a couple than with the added stress of taking care of an infant.
Post # 6
right now we have agreed to wait until our one year anniversary of gettting married which would make we 23 and him 24 to start trying. ive gotten more then one interview with places but that bank one was big and it was just a blow to me. and even though im not in collage i would like too but i just can’t decide what i want to do i want to do evverything. right now our list is paying off bills, get a house or trailer to start in, get married, spend a year together just us, and then start TTC. but when i see my preggo cousin or preggo customers at work i feel a jab and i want to cry i feel like no matter now hard i try i can’t get us going farther down our path. i feel like its my fault. he got a second job (first one stopped scheduling him cause they were mad) but i can’t even get one. idk im done today bees
Post # 7
@clockwerk: I got pregnant at 21 after a year of marriage and two years of serious baby fever. Even though LO was planned and DH and I have stable careers, money will probably be tighter than we’re used to for the first few months as we adjust to the added expenses of daycare, diapers, my reduced schedule, etc. I have been in your shoes and it completely sucks (especially if you have friends without jobs or serious boyfriends having babies) but I think waiting would be the best decision for you and your FI. A year or two isn’t that long to wait, even though it definitely seems like it right now. Hang in there.