(Closed) going through baby mode again :(

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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4676 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You have plenty of time!  Tons of time!  If you are worried about money just keep on working on finding better employment. There are better jobs out there, but don’t give up after one interview.  

Post # 4
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Whoa whoa whoa!  You have your whole life ahead of you.  Make a list, or even a visual list (list a collage) of everything you want to accomplish.  Then start taking steps.  You can have whatever you want if you prepare for it.

Do not put all your “eggs” in one basket as far as jobs go.  Never do that.  Don’t think twice – apply to 20, 30, 50 jobs. 

Post # 5
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9143 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It’s normal to want to have a baby when you feel settled and loved and it sounds like you do.  From personal experience I would say wait another year or two.  Twenty-one is so young and there is so much to experience in life that you would have to put on hold if you have a baby now.  Plus, if your posted wedding date is correct you’re planning a wedding and honestly a lot of relationships change the first year of marriage, for better and for worse.  It’s easier to deal with those changes as a couple than with the added stress of taking care of an infant.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@clockwerk:  I got pregnant at 21 after a year of marriage and two years of serious baby fever. Even though LO was planned and DH and I have stable careers, money will probably be tighter than we’re used to for the first few months as we adjust to the added expenses of daycare, diapers, my reduced schedule, etc. I have been in your shoes and it completely sucks (especially if you have friends without jobs or serious boyfriends having babies) but I think waiting would be the best decision for you and your FI. A year or two isn’t that long to wait, even though it definitely seems like it right now. Hang in there. 

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