Post # 1
So, my best friend recently got asked to be in the bridal party for one of our coworkers because one of the groomsmen dropped out. He asked me if I would be his plus one for the night, and I agreed. (FI knows and is okay with it.)
However, I don’t know this couple terribly well, like I said I work with the groom, but have only ever interacted with him a handful of times and I’ve met his fiancee once.
I’m just curious, what would be th proper gift in this scenario? I’m thinking of maybe getting them a set of glasses they wanted off of their registery, but they’re only $20 and I don’t want to be the “cheap” gift giver.
Post # 2
I think something off the registry in whatever price range you want is perfectly fine. Since you are just the plus one, it’s your date who is really invited and would give the main gift, I would think.
Post # 3
buzzingbridex: I’d buy something off their registry or give cash/cheque. And honestly, I’d probably give quite a bit more than $20 unless I was only invited to the evening portion of the wedding (in the UK you either get invited to the entire day (ceremony, 3 course meal, then dancing and buffet in the evening), or the evening only (dancing and buffet). For the latter I’d give $20-30, and more if I was attending the whole day, even if I didn’t know them very well.
Post # 4
I would either purchase something from the registry or else give cash or a check. If you do write a check, make it out to only one of them
Post # 6
buzzingbridex: Can you go in on a gift with your friend you’re going to the wedding with? I would get something off of the registry, or just give cash. Cash is the easiest and always appreciated.
Post # 7
I’d check with your friend first. Since he’s the one that was invited, and he knows that you don’t know the couple at all, in my opinion, he’s the one responsible for the gift.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2015 - camp in new hampshire
i agree with PP, I’d check with your friend, see what he is giving, and see if you can chip in money-wise, and just put both of your names on the card.
Post # 9
- Wedding: Cottage on the Creek
:/ This might be the unpopular answer but I prob wouldn’t give a gift… When I am invited to a wedding and bring my FI as a plus one, I buy a gift that “covers” both of us. If I had to ask a friend to be a plus one (like if FI would be out of town) I would NEVER expect them to bring a gift and I would NEVER EVER ask them to contribute $$$. Not your responsibility in the least, and if you don’t know the couple and weren’t invited, they won’t even have your address to send a thank you and would prob say “who the heck is this” when they saw your name on the card.