Going to a wedding where I don't really know couple, what to get for a gift?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think something off the registry in whatever price range you want is perfectly fine.  Since you are just the plus one, it’s your date who is really invited and would give the main gift, I would think.


Post # 3
5391 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

buzzingbridex:  I’d buy something off their registry or give cash/cheque. And honestly, I’d probably give quite a bit more than $20 unless I was only invited to the evening portion of the wedding (in the UK you either get invited to the entire day (ceremony, 3 course meal, then dancing and buffet in the evening), or the evening only (dancing and buffet). For the latter I’d give $20-30, and more if I was attending the whole day, even if I didn’t know them very well.

Post # 4
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would either purchase something from the registry or else give cash or a check. If you do write a check, make it out to only one of them 

Post # 5
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Money always works

Post # 6
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

buzzingbridex:  Can you go in on a gift with your friend you’re going to the wedding with? I would get something off of the registry, or just give cash. Cash is the easiest and always appreciated.

Post # 7
1180 posts
Bumble bee

I’d check with your friend first. Since he’s the one that was invited, and he knows that you don’t know the couple at all, in my opinion, he’s the one responsible for the gift.

Post # 8
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - camp in new hampshire

i agree with PP, I’d check with your friend, see what he is giving, and see if you can chip in money-wise, and just put both of your names on the card.

Post # 9
380 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Cottage on the Creek

:/ This might be the unpopular answer but I prob wouldn’t give a gift… When I am invited to a wedding and bring my FI as a plus one, I buy a gift that “covers” both of us. If I had to ask a friend to be a plus one (like if FI would be out of town) I would NEVER expect them to bring a gift and I would NEVER EVER ask them to contribute $$$. Not your responsibility in the least, and if you don’t know the couple and weren’t invited, they won’t even have your address to send a thank you and would prob say “who the heck is this” when they saw your name on the card. 

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