(Closed) Going to miss "waiting" in a weird, sort of way

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do you feel sad/weird about leaving your dating days with your SO behind?
    Nope! I can't wait to be married to him. I just wanna be his wife : (48 votes)
    55 %
    Somewhat, it'll be odd going from being a girlfriend to a "fiance" : (28 votes)
    32 %
    I'm dreading it, marriage is a HUGE step : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I'm sad I won't be able to feel the emotions that come with first meeting someone again : (10 votes)
    11 %
    Other (will explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2966 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  I know what you mean. It’s kind of common for people to miss the past and ‘fear’ the future. When FH and I moved in together I felt some things slip away. One of them was the butterflies and fun that comes with dating. Not knowing when to kiss, when to sit quiet, when to hold hands, when to say I love you…etc. 

    Now that we live together and are engaged it’s a different kind of experience. It’s great; it’s cozy and comfortable and open, there’s no games, no guessing. However, I do miss the excitement sometimes. 

    We try to keep things ‘new’ by going on dates, I flirt my a$$ off with him just like we did when we were trying to “get” each other. 

    le sigh.

    Life goes on ya know? It’s all about learning and adapting to the new, which becomes the old…and so on and so forth. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Mimoza:  You put it very well… I can totally relate!

    Post # 7
    Member
    482 posts
    Helper bee

    i was just thinking this yesterday. as much as i hate this chapter of waiting i will miss the freedom i had during this period. the proposal is coming very soon and i cant help but think this care free phase of my life will be over.

    i never lived with a man before, so i know once the engagement comes, moving in will be next. its exciting but scary for me.

    i was so used to girls nights, taking trips, living on my own terms, now i will have him to consider when i do something. but ill cherish this time that i had, theres no going back now. i welcome the upgrade. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Yes,  but I am ready for it. We took our time to get here (3 years next month), so I don’t have doubts…just nervous energy from taking the next step. I eouldn’t move in before a ring, so after this month’s engagement, we’ll be taking on the cohabitation thing and start the wedding planning phase. Looking forward to this new chapter…

    Post # 10
    Member
    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  I was just thinking this last night! Feeling exactly the same – excited to move on but sorta already nostalgic for the days I’m currently living through! Weird. I always try and think of what my dad said when I felt like this about leaving school: “How would you feel if I told you you had to stay at school for another year?” And I was like “Nooo ok I wanna move on!” Haha.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1936 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Mimoza:  You summed it up so well. I kind of miss the newness of my relationship with my FI, but it in no way compares to the feeling of comfort, love, and happiness that we have now. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  Thank you…happy anniversary to you too! I flat out told him at our 2nd anniversary that “I do not want to be in girlfriend status when we hit 3 years!” I am 35, he is 43…LOL the term just sounds silly at our ages. He agreed and I’ve been waiting for him to make his move…but the ring is in his house, he told me he’d be proposing before Christmas and we have special plans this weekend. 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @Tarheelgurl:  LOL @ man friend! I saw another post on the bee that used “signficant male friend”

    Post # 15
    Member
    776 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was nervous when we went from boyfriend/girlfriend, then to living together, and now we’re engaged! I have to say I have loved the changes. We have a relationship where I actually feel more liberated to go out and try new things because I know he’s home waiting for me and will love me even if my project in art class is a total dud, or a fall on my face at zumba, or if a pull a hammy doing a sun salutation. 

    I think you need to embrace the changes and enjoy the new challenges this next phase will bring. You may lose some of the butterflies that come with the “unknown” but you gain the confidence and comfort of knowing you can talk about anything, be your honest self, and you have a true partner in life.

    We’re almost at seven years and with just under a year to go I’m excited to move onto our next phase, but treasuring these fun moments we have now.

    All the best to all of you, have a fantastic holiday and don’t forget to say YES when he asks!! (because I was so flustered I totally forgot, haha)

    Best!

    s.

    Post # 16
    Member
    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SO and I need to have a conversation about divorce. It’s not something that I want to talk about. It is not something that I’m planning. But it’s a realistic fear. 50 percent off marriages end in divorce now and it’s scary. I love him and I wanted to make it to rocking chairs but… I’m scared. I’ll admit it. 

    I guess I just need to have one convo. One about this and maybe one day talk about a prenup 
    Ewwww yucky conversation I need to have!!

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