(Closed) Going to Weddings Alone?

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

If it were my fiance’s friends I don’t think I would go to their weddings without him. If I considered my fiance’s friends close friends or even good friends then I would go and just treat it like any other friend’s wedding and arrange to have a plus 1 (either a friend or family member) come with me…

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I attended events alone while DH was deployed, and also while he was in GA after we were married. You’re going FOR him, in his place, so I think it’s a nice gesture. Just stay for a little, then go home. You definitely don’t have to stay all night =]

also, a lot of his friends will talk to you about him and how he’s doing, etc….so it’s good for everyone I think!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i am not in a military relationship, but most of my friends’ weddings are on the west coast, and we live on the east coast, so usually i’ll just go by myself.  in my case, i have a big group of really good friends from high school, so it ends up being super fun!  i would just embrace it and look at it as an opportunity to get some down time with your friends. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have been a military SO, and currently i am a law enforcement SO – both have the same rate of attendance at things.

I learned to be comfortable with going to things by myself – including weddings. like one of the other posters said, often people will ask you how your FH/SO is doing etc. and its kinda nice to know people care.

Again, you dont have to stay all night, but if you never go to anything just because your SO is deployed or unable to make it, you will be alone alot. and that is NOT fun.

if you are super uncomfortable – you might consider talkin to the bride to see if there are other folks who will be there that you know so you know you wont be “alone” when you go. with weddings sometimes it gets to be a downer to see a happy couple when you miss your SO so much, but you have to learn to not put your life on hold, not to mention it will make for something really nice to write about/talk about with your deployed SO 🙂

Post # 7
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873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am very comfortable doing things along, but I still wouldn’t want to go to his friend’s wedding while he’s deployed.  One, it just wouldn’t be fun, and two, they aren’t my friends.  If they insisted, and I was friendly with them, I might make an appearance, but otherwise, nope.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@starrynight: oh wait i missed the part that it wasnt HER friends but FH’s friends….DOH!  yeah i dunno if iwould go if it was his friends and folks i was just “acquaintances” with.

but for the ones for your close friends it would be easier to go it alone (or take a friend for the first couple ones or something)

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you consider them to be your friends, together, and you see them together, i think you should go. Don’t you know the mutual friends that will be there?

Post # 11
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I don’t have a problem with going to weddings alone.  Heck, I go to movies by myself. lol  I’m so used to doing things on my own, due to DH military comment, that it just comes second nature to me.

Post # 12
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2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Since we live across the country from my friends who are getting married this summer- I’m not going. If we had the money, I would- but we lost a real estate deal (the seller’s used us to stop their foreclosure- we didn’t know- we lost a few thousand dollars and have to go to court) so I’m not attending. If we were in the area I would go with a couple of girlfriends who were also invited. If I didn’t know anyone I porbably wouldn’t go.

Post # 13
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My boyfriends cousin is getting married while he is still deployed and I just feel weird about going so we talked about it and I am not going. He understands that it would make me uncomfortable.

If his friends are your friends then I say go for it…have some fun!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’ve gone to all weddings stag so far.  I have never attended a wedding with my SO.   At first it’s awkward but after the 3rd or 4th wedding (I’ve lost count by now), I’ve gotten used to going stag.  Wow, that’s kinda sad!  LOL.  If you are really uncomfortable and the wedding couple allows for it, try to coax a close outgoing friend to come along as the stand in.  Alcohol always helps, but not too much of course. :O)

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I went to a large wedding of my close friend alone and I don’t think I would do it again. I had a miserable and uncomfortable time! So I definitely wouldn’t do it for a SO either. However, I am a shyer person….a more outgoing, confident person might not feel so bad. Then again, I just went to a wedding where a lot of the guests were there alone, and they seemed to be fine with it. I think if I had gone to that wedding alone and most people were single, it would’ve been fine. 

I think if I ever did it again, I would just go to the ceremony and then maybe make an appearance at the reception but leave early.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

I am going to two weddings in the next few months and my SO is away. One I’m going to alone, another my date is a female friend who was on their b-list of invitees. Though, I’m a reasonably outgoing person and don’t have a terrible time going to weddings alone ever. 

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