Post # 1
I went to my third family wedding in the past year, and it was beautiful! I think that the couple is AmAzing together and I am so happy for them. Though…their reception was a little uncomfortable for me. Since Im the last one in the age group in my extended family to be single and also dating long term I got a LOT of imput. My aunts asked me if I was ever getting married, my grandmother told me to send my SO to talk to her so she could convince him to propose, three or four people said LET ME SEE YOUR HAND! “oh you mean my left hand..yeah still no ring, thanks.”
and dont even get me started on the bouquet toss…seriously, how is fighting a bunch of teenage girls for flowers going to help… sigh* I know they are just trying to help or make conversation, but I wish they would just leave me in my corner so I can enjoy the reception and watch the newlyweds dance in peace.
Anyone relate? dissagree?
Post # 3
@Koifish: my parents were like this with me and my now FI. Always “when are you gonna become part of the family FOR REAL?” “What are you two waiting on, you’re not getting younger” It’s uncomfortable for both people. so I know how you feel. I started replying (more like snapping) with “how about you guys let us worry about our relationship”
Post # 4
@Koifish: My mom was like that with my us. Always asking when he was going to propose….yeah, like hes gonna tell me!! Took him 3 1/2 years. We enjoyed the engagement, all 2 years of it!! Now I am getting the, “Oh, look at these baby items” NO, NO NO!!!!!!!
Post # 5
@Koifish: I can totally relate. I went to a friend’s wedding last july, a month after FH had ‘promised’ me was the longest he’d make me wait. It was brutal. Thankfully, at that point, there were still several non-engaged girls at the wedding so it wasn’t as bad. I am not doing a boquet toss for this reason, it’s not fun for the single girls after a certain point. There will only be 3 or 4 ‘single girls’ at my wedding and I don’t want to single them out.
Post # 6
I think bouquet tosses are a terrible tradition. When I was single, I always headed to the bar for a drink and sat out the bouquet toss. We skipped it at our wedding.
Post # 7
@Koifish: OH BOY this is me. 100%.
The best thing that you can do is fake happiness until you make it. I basically lost it at the last wedding I went too….SO and I were supposed to be on track for an engagement and wedding this past year and much to my surprise it didn’t happen…which made the wedding I went to (SO’s brothers) REALLY hard for me.
Sometimes it’s hard to remember that we are the stars of our lives, and it’s hard to not get the things we want in life.
It’s possible there might be other engagement parties, weddings, bridal showers, etc for you before you get engaged so try to keep your head up and hang in there!!
Post # 8
His parents were like that prior to him proposing (and the only reason he hadn’t for the majority of that time was because I wasn’t ready haha).
Although I can totally relate to the overall frustration. There was a year where I was finally ready, but realized we couldn’t afford to get engaged or have a wedding like we would like for at least another year and after every wedding we attended for that whole year (3-4 weddings) I would get back home or to the hotel and just have a massive breakdown.
Post # 9
I’m 20 and my SO is 22, so we don’t get this as frequently since we are so young, but we still do hear a lot of this especially at weddings. We went to a wedding when I was 18 and about two weeks shy of graduating from high school. Someone asked us when we were going to be getting married! I’m like um maybe when I’m not still in high school! LOL
I also hate the bouquet toss. At the same wedding I was basically forced to participate in it. I’m relatively shy, and they wanted all of the single girls to go up in front of everyone and dance for the bouquet. I tried to escape, but they found me.
Post # 10
@Koifish: My FI is 32. He got this A LOT. He hadn’t had a GF since he was like 23 so everyone was pressuring him SO MUCH.
Thankfully he didn’t rush because of the pressure! Now he is with me! 😀
Post # 11
Despite the fact that going to weddings was a reminder that it wasn’t my own I try to envision mine within I’m there. I love weddings always have but sometimes I Wish people would ask me about getting married. My family is very old fashioned so I don’t think they ever will. It’d be nice to know that someone in the family was also excited at the possibility of my future wedding. 🙂 But my SO should be meeting all my immediate family in a few weeks for our get together so maybe they’ll ask. 🙂
Post # 12
Oh that is the worst! My SO is 31 and I’m 26 and we’ve been together for 4 years. I constantly get asked when are we getting engaged. They don’t ask my SO, they ask me. Or they’ll say things like, “oh we all thought for sure it was going to happen (insert event here)” it drives me mental!
The worse has to be my grandmother who will say in front of both of us “I’ve always wanted to see my oldest grand daughter get married before I die, and I’m not getting any younger!”
Post # 13
@beetee123: Ugh, pushy DJs/guests/wedding party members who force you to engage in the bouquet toss are the worst. When I was single and at a wedding of people I didn’t know very well (for SO at the time or whatever), I would just lie to the DJ and say I was married to get out of the tosses. It’s really humiliating after a set age (25, 27, 30, etc.).
Post # 14
@AnaA: It’s actually refreshing to see that GUYS get pressured about this as well. Usually it’s the women who get pressured and nagged about this while the guys can enjoy being “eligible bachelors.”
Post # 15
I thought this post was going to be about cash bars and lack of alcohol at weddings lately to cut costs, haha.
Post # 16
@MrsNewDay: Yeah, the poor guy has delt with an ENTIRE wedding chanting his name so he would stand up for the toss!