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:D i haven't, but i am totally curvy (14-16) and will probably end up in a trumpet style, not everyone will say it's great on me, but guess what, tough stuff i'm probably wearing it... what is unflattering about the dress? can you steer her towards another one, ask her what she likes about it and point out others.. ultimately if she loves it, let it go and love it too. if it gives her the feeling of being the most perfect dress in the world, then that's really what everyone looks for...
lol probably not but i would probably just get her to try on all the different styles so she can see how they all look!!! hopefully she would realize that another style is more flattering for her body shape!!! common sense you should realize what does or does not flatter your body!!
i think if i was in the wedding party i would nicely tell her that another style is more flattering to her body shape!!! you gotta be honest cause you want her to look the best on her day!!! hopefully she understands!!! good luck!!
Well, sample dresses aren't altered yet, and do you know if she plans on losing/gaining weight before the wedding, what her undergarments or crinoline will be, etc? If it's the gown for her, then it's the gown--don't tell her she looks horrible in it. That would just ruin it for her! Dresses look so different (and so much better) once they're tailored to perfection. Just make sure she has a good seamstress (refer her to one if you know one!) and tell her about some awesome undergarments you were considering using. Good luck!
I agree with the others that you should never tell a bride that the dress she loves isn't flattering. Maybe you could take pictures and tell her it's best to decide after looking at the pictures and seeing what suits her.
I wouldn't tell her a dress she loves doesn't look nice - I would have felt horrible if someone had said that to me when I was trying on dresses. Take pictures of her in that dress and other dresses so that when she's making a decision she has objective photographs to look at. If she still feels it's the one, then it is and as the MOH/BM I would support her in that decision, not rain on her parade.
I had the same problem with one of my girlfriends. I told her why I liked the other dress better (I said it made her boobs look bigger). She ended up with the uglier one, but as long as it was what she wanted, I was happy for her.
I would NEVER tell someone "HELL NO" to a dress she had her heart set on, no matter how bad I thought it looked. I always try to mirror the excitement (or non-excitement) of the b2b because I think it's kind of cruel not to! I don't care what she said; she does NOT want my honest opinion if she's made up her mind already. ;)
yeah I totally did this when I was a bridesmaid! I think that's why my friends ask me along on stuff like this, they know I will be honest - usually people just say "ooohh, its gorgeous" to every dress and it's not very helpful. I just said what I thought in a nice way, like "the flower thing on the hip is distracting from the pretty bustline" or " the horizontal stripes don't emphasize your height" or whatever. The bride ended up getting an AMAZING gown (which I gave all positive feedback on!), and returned the favor by coming dress shopping with me - and providing equally honest opinions :)
I don't think I could say anything if she really loved it. I think trying to find alternatives that are similar is a good idea. I think the most important thing is that SHE feels beautiful in it, which is really hard for me to accept, too, because I'm pretty critical of bad clothing decisions ;)
This is a tough one! Being a bride who is having major dress issues myself and has ended up a 2 dress bride because of it, I actually wish I had someone to be honest with me. My MOH tells me I look gorgeous in both (she's only seen crappy cell phone pictures though), but there's one in particular I'm just not sure if she's being honest or just trying to be supportive. A bride wants to look gorgeous on her wedding day, so I kind of think she should know if she's going to look bad.
I guess my questions would be: is it more a style you simply don't like (in other words, you wouldn't like it on anyone) or does it truly look bad on her? Is she someone who can handle the honesty (put politely, of course!)? Did anyone else have any opinions on the dress that you know of? Though I don't recommend ganging up on her : )
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Have you guys (as a BM or MOH) ever gone dress shopping with a bride and she has a heart set on a dress (she totally loves it and to her, that is THE one) but it totally is not flattering on her--do you have the heart to tell her HELL NO?! ahah