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Going with FI to find the dress? it sounds crazy... i know

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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    so my wedding is in july 31 and still dont have a dress... i know it sounds crazy but still no dress. i have my eye in two red dresses one short and vintage looking and one long... my mother in the other hand wants me in a white wedding dress, i really dotn mid the white it just i havent found anything i like... 

    my mom is traveling from puerto rico take me dress shopping, i will go willing because i still havent fall in love with any dress.  my FI wants to go and i dont see any trouble with that, at the end the dress is a big expense and im not a traditional bride. my best friedn told me i was crazy for taking him with me...

    i dont get it?? have anybody done this before?? or im a really crazy???    

     
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    AzinAugust    August 2010   Sedona, AZ

    I took my FI dress shopping the first 2 times... after I realized every answer I got from him was "you look amazing, it's hard for me I'm just excited to see you in a wedding gown"... Which was indeed melt-your-heart sweet... just wasn't as helpful for me to actually nail down and pick a gown.

    So just remember your FI may be overly emotional, just like your mother :o) The best person I went with FSIL. When she saw my gown that was it! She said "No it must be yours."

     
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    sweetnote10    May 5, 2012   evansville, indiana

    I dont think its a big deal at all I mean whose to say he will even remember what your dress looks like afterwards so he could still be surprised on the big day. Or I have seen it where brides take their FI and try on numerous gowns and just dont tell their FI which one they pick. I am not very traditional either so I wouldnt think it was a big deal and if you dont have a problem with him being there then why not include him. I would like to add few guys would ask to go dress shopping! A+ for your guy! LOL

     
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    ccranetobe    August 14, 2010  

    Your not crazy, I wanted to take my FH but mum said i couldnt lol. hes always the one to tell me if it looks good or not, and he has actually a great sense of style. He usually comes clothes shopping with me anyway and well it just felt weird. But on the other hand, sometimes even if you are an untraditional bride will you regret him seeing it?

     
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    noodlefish    November 27, 2010  

    I wanted to take my FI shopping with me at first, and he refused.  I have never made a purchase that big before, and since we are paying for our wedding completely ourselves I felt weird about taking a big chunk out of the budget without his input. He told me that one of his favorite qualities about me was my style and that he was not concerned about what I would pick, or how much I would spend. I think that your wedding day is going to be special and unique no matter what, and if it makes you feel better to have him there on the "dress hunt" day then so be it. :)

     
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    misscanada    July 31, 2010   Binghamton, NY

    Not crazy. I didn't bring my FI with me, but I did show him pictures when I got home!

     
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    I don't think it's crazy at all.  I didn't do it, because my mom is right there and my then fiance, now husband, believed that it's not his business.

    But, one of my friends did it.  She has always depended on her fashion conscious fiance for clothes advice and didn't feel wedding dress shopping was any different. He was proud to have gone with her, did a great job helping and she loves her dress because he picked an excellent one.

    She took care of the mom issue in a creative way too.  To prevent her mom from feeling left out, she put the dress of choice on hold, along with a couple of  other, less awesome dresses.  She took her mom to the store, tried all them all and her and her mom "picked" the dress her fiance chose.  She actually managed to make everyone happy, including herself.  Good luck and totally take him with you if you want:D

     
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    glowawber    4/18/10   New Haven, CT

    I took my fiance the first time I went to look at dresses, and then he went with me to my second fitting last week. It was great!

     
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    thefuturemrsgibbs    June 12, 2010   Northern California

    I just wouldn't take my FI because he would get really bored. I also wanted to keep my dress a surprise because you know what they say it's bad luck for the FI to see the dress before the wedding.... 

    So did he end up helping you to pick out the dress magenta?

     

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