posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@thisclosetobeingabridezilla:  What an idiot. You’re probably a much better person than I am, but I would be attempted to tell your FMIL that responding to the email would probably be a good place to start getting some info.

I feel like ‘hasn’t been checking email’ in this day and technological age is a very poor excuse.

On the up side, you have 4 wonderful ladies throwing you what will probably be a wonderful shower!

Post # 4
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I really think there’s one in every group!  I think all you can do is laugh it off, and then go on with your day.  I completely, 100% agree with your reasonings for not wanting to intervene and start managing one of your bridesmaids b/c she can’t do it herself.

If need be, I would just say to the FMIL, “The girls have told me that they want certain things to be a surprise and they want to plan it themselves.  So in essence, I don’t really know anything but the date.  However, I think they communicate between all the bridesmaids regularly with email, so FSIL may want to check it often.”  If she still pushes, tell her she can contact MOH personally if she wants.


Post # 5
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally agree with you! I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. You have enough on your plate without having to hold FSSIL’s hand.

Personally, I would tell FSSIL (or FMIL to tell FSSIL) to read her e-mail, not just “see something about it”. Then, if she still has questions, reply to the e-mail and ask the other BMs. Not hard.

Post # 6
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Uh…why was her first thought not to REPLY to the email? DERR.

No offense to you FI, but sounds like this girl ain’t the sharpest knife in the drawer, if you know what I mean.

Post # 7
2543 posts
Sugar bee

MadTownGirl’s wording is perfect to say to your FMIL. Your BM is being ridiculous!

Post # 9
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I guess your FSSIL is incapable of reading the email? Or replying and asking herself? Jeeeeez. It’s supposed to be a surprise shower!

Post # 10
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why can’t she just reply to the email to get the details?

Post # 12
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@thisclosetobeingabridezilla:  I’d tell FMIL that FSSIL will need to reply to her email as the shower is a surprise. If FMIL persists and says, “Well, can’t you just (find out secretly, give me BM1-4’s phone number, enter stupid request here)?” and then you say, “No.” Also, in giving FMIL this clue, I wouldn’t make it a separate call, I wouldn’t make it a separate visit — in other words, I wouldn’t go out of my way to answer her/FSSIL on this. If you happen to be talking about other things, use that moment to say, “Oh, by the way, I’ve been SO BUSY PLANNING FOR MY OWN WEDDING that I haven’t had a chance to get back to you on WHAT YOUR DAUGHTER SHOULD DO/HOW YOUR DAUGHTER SHOULD REPLY TO THE EMAIL THAT WAS SENT TO HER WEEKS AGO. Gee, I think she should just reply to the email!” 😉 Good luck.

Post # 13
5663 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

HA i don’t think this is bitchy or catty, I think she’s being totaly irresponsible and immature. I’d do exactly what you said and be like no sorry she can read the emails and respond. This is a surprise for me and I’d like to keep it that way.

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