Post # 1
Hello my Fellow Bees 🙂
So a lil history here: SO & I have dated for 6 yrs…He has known since Xmas of 11 that I was hoping for a lil bling bling under the tree – didnt happen..I cried. V-Day didn’t happen – didn’t cry but was sad. instead I got a cruise that we will take in May (not a shabby gift I must admit) So here it is 2 weeks away from the cruise and EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE has heard me mention that I wonder if Im getting a ring and what does the cruise mean and yada yada yada…
So I’m telling the latest Q&A session to a young relative of mine and she asks me to pause and proceeds to say..”You are stressing ME out” “I truly feel like I’m having a heart attack here, Are you asking him these questions or giving him your scenarios”? I answer truthfully and then this young girl who I have watched grow into a woman with a child of her own…say to me “How will you know if he GAVE you the ring, that he did it on his own timeline and NOT by pressure from you?” Every girl wants a ring, but how will you truly know that you didn’t pressure him into doing this? That he didnt just want to make YOU happy instead of making you BOTH happy?”
So with that, I said I will watch what I say and watch how it comes out to him (but continue stalking this site and posting – DUH!!)
Post # 3
Ah yes, the many phases of “waiting” lol. Hang in there girl!
Post # 4
Yeah wow, I would back off! Good luck keeping those thoughts to yourself.
Post # 5
It’s difficult (some days more than others) to not obsess about it, especially if you know it’s coming at SOME point. Most women just want to get there already! However, from what I’ve seen, it’s better to just let him do it when he is going to. If you’ve both clearly communicated your timelines and are on the same page, it’s time to just drop it. He wants it to be very special and he most likely has a fantastic plan. But you’ll ruin it if you keep pushing harder than you should.
Relax, enjoy the ride. And the cruise sounds amazing!! Good luck!
Post # 6
@ColoradoGirl: I love the advice. I know it will happen but it is the when that kills me, I’m really trying to relax..but I tell ya it’s NOT easy..LOL. I am truly working on it. It is a day by day struggle..Kinda like a 12 step process lol…
I’m dawn to know what is on the other side, the ending.. as my family tells me, I “plan to plan” lol. He is a good man (at times) drives me crazy other times..but in all reality he gets me..and understands my nuances..LOL.
I am a work in progress. Thank goodness he understands that and still loves me for who I am. As I do him. By The Way – I did pretty good this weekend 🙂