Post # 1
Miss Sewing’s post, and similar ones by other bees and here on the boards, have gotten me thinking about how while my relationship with my FI is good and strong, these sorts of relationship-building activities and discussions are always good and helpful. My FI and I are not doing any sort of pre-maritial counselling, but I was wondering if anyone could recommend some good (non religious) books to stimlate that sort of discussion. I know I’ve read about some here periodically- I’d also love to hear about anyone’s personal experience with them and whether they were helpful!
Post # 3
Our pastor has recommended “10 Great Dates to Have Before I Do” for our marital studies. It’s pretty good.
Post # 4
My FI and I are reading “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.” We’ve been kind of lazy, but it is good to read it together when we do.
Post # 5
I liked the 5 love languages…it really helped me see where I needed to change the approach to giving love to my partner while understanding what he needed to feel loved and vice versa.
Post # 6
I got a really simple book from a cousin at a recent shower that’s nice. It’s not a study your relationship book necessarily, but it some nice think and talk about it stories and inspirational quotes. It’s called “A Love That Lasts, Inspiring Stories from Couples Married 50 Years & Beyond”.
Post # 8
We really, really liked “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” by Sue Johnson. It came highly recommended and we found it super relatable and spot on in many cases.
Post # 9
I agree, The 5 Love Languages. I believe there’s a men’s version too. It has really helped us figure out how to “reach” each other.
Another one I keep by my bed for a quickie read every night: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Love. It just kind of puts things in perspective and it’s very simple and easy to read.
Post # 10
His Needs/Her Needs by Dr. Harley!
I am a huuuge fan of the Harleys and the whole marriagebuilders program! It really does work.
Post # 11
We got his needs, her need from our pastor and also saving your marriage before it starts
Post # 12
I highly, highly recommend “7 Principles for Making Marriage Work” by John Gottman. Gottman is the foremost academic expert on successful marriages in North America and his principles are evidence-based. He throws a lot of the typical strategies out the window. He’s studies thousands of couples and knows what does/doesn’t work.
This is also the book we used for our marriage prep course. It was fantastic.
Post # 13
I’m reading “The proper care and feeding of husbands” by Dr. Laura right now, its really good. She also has “the proper care and feeding of marriage” too. I know she gets a lot of crap from people but read the reviews of these books on Amazon and almost all of them are positive.
Post # 14
i really liked 101 things i wish i knew when i got married
its also very easy to read because its divided up into short stories – lik 2-4 pages that you can read in one sitting easily (i think FI read it whenever he went to the bathroom)
Post # 15
I agree with greenapples. We did to a weekend marriage prep course (it was amazing btw and I would recommend it to every couple) and the couple that taught the class raved about John Gottman. His research is fansinating, definately read up on him if nothing else.