Post # 1
I’m having a semi-destination wedding. All 3 of them will have to travel (1 from EU, 1 from 1.5 hrs away, and 1 (sister) from 5 hrs away. I’m flying 3k miles.) I’m providing lodging for 2 of them for both nights and for my married sister for one night. (She’ll obviously stay with her husband/kids the rest of the time.)
I’m making their dresses and will either tell them to wear whatever shoes or possibly buy them if I decide THEY MUST MATCH…and I’m going to make each bridesmaid a little clutch and put some goodies in it (tarte lip crayons, fresh sugar lip balm, and probably a few other little things).
1) do you think I need to give more?
2) ideas for other little things to put in the clutch that are nice and inexpensive, but not just cheap filler?
3) as long as the shoes aren’t crazy expensive, would you (as a bridesmaid) rather have your hair paid for (which I wouldn’t demand if they wanted to do it themselves) or have the shoes gifted?
I want to thank them, but I also feel like requiring as little investment of them as possible is a nicer gift than trinkets…
Thanks, ladies. 😀
Post # 3
@cateyes: I think what you listed was fine! And I think I would rather have my hair covered and buy my own shoes 🙂
Post # 4
Getting mine Pandora bracelets! 🙂
Post # 5
Sounds good to me! You’re making their dresses?! That’s amazing!
Post # 6
@cateyes: I think it sounds awesome already. Tarte lip crayons and sugar lip balm are NOT little nothing items, so even though they are physically small I feel like that’s a substantial gift cost-wise.
Post # 7
Holy! you are covering enough girl!
Post # 8
@hushbee1: I’m doing infinity dresses, so…not, like, couture garments. 😀 But I did find really nice fabric for it!
@MexiPino: they’re the christmas gift pack half-sizes…(which I actually prefer for personal use. ESPECIALLY for the fresh sugar ones! the full size are kinda hard to use!)
@Nikkimcq: ha. ok. thanks! for some reason, I feel really bad asking people to spend money to be in my wedding…it’s like, “here’s this honor for you. It’s gonna cost you $XXX.”
Post # 9
@cateyes: RIGHT?! Those big ones are ridiculous. I love the one I got as my “happy birthday” from Sephora last year. I think it’s even smaller than the gift pack size, but I love it.
Post # 10
1) do you think I need to give more? Nope, what you’re giving sounds great
2) ideas for other little things to put in the clutch that are nice and inexpensive, but not just cheap filler? depending on your budget, I’d love a sterling silver bracelet or earrings (from test they can be $20-40). I’d like this even if it was the only thing in the clutch or given instead of the clutch
3) as long as the shoes aren’t crazy expensive, would you (as a bridesmaid) rather have your hair paid for (which I wouldn’t demand if they wanted to do it themselves) or have the shoes gifted? I’d rather have you gift the shoes because I’d want to do my own hair or if I wanted it done I’d be fine paying
Post # 11
@Shkragoldfish: thanks for your insights. 😀 The other thing is that I’m a hairdresser, and if I have time, I can totally whip up some pretty quick updos if they want to wear their hair that way. But I’d hate for them to plan on that…I gotta get ready, too! haha.
Post # 12
@cateyes: Sounds like you’re giving them some lovely gifts! You could put a pack of oil blotting papers in the clutch – I think they’re $5 at the Body Shop and they come in handy when you’re dancing all night.
Post # 13
@cateyes: That’s impressive!
Post # 14
The clutches are a good idea. I suggest you throw in one of those to-go spot remover pens (I think Tide makes them) for spills on dresses. I think a pack of three runs about $8.
As a general rule, if the bride wants something specific for her maids as far as accessories or hair/makeup goes, she should pay. I think paying for either all the shoes OR all the hair would be a very nice gift from you! (I’d probably prefer the shoes be bought, hoenstly, because I’m not hair savvy and would’ve paid someone to stick it up anyway).