Post # 1
My wedding isn’t until August 2014. I’m falling in love with vendors left and right before really doing the research and just booking because “I love them so freaking much”…
Well, the photographer I booked has been flakey in contact (at best) even though they’re a reputable group. Grated, they’re really busy; I get that. But how hard is it to answer a “Yes or No” question!?
Anyway, I found another photographer accidentally. I wasn’t looking for photographers, but I was researching inspiration pictures for my engagement shoot. I kept saving pictures from the same photographer… who just happens to be in the area of my venue…
But I already put down $1800… And I know I won’t get that back. But I love this photographer soooo much more.
Has this ever happened to you!? Did you get your deposit back? Did you just accept the loss and move on? What’s a girl to do?
Post # 3
This hasn’t happened to me, but…
I’m afraid it’s unlikely that you’ll get your deposit back. It really depends on your contract. What does the contract say about the deposit?
Post # 4
I switched photographers. But I was lucky and the original photographer I had booked (deposit of $900) let me use that for a photobooth ($800 value) instead. So I didn’t really lose anything…
But $1800 down the drain is kind of a lot! What does your fiancé think?
Post # 5
@Pinkmoon: He just keeps shaking his head but he knows that photography is the one part of the wedding that means the most to me. Everything else will be fine, but the photography I am very picky about.
He doesn’t want to, but he says that if it’s something I really really really want, we’ll make it work somehow. But that means cutting from other important parts of the wedding, like favors and paper and decor.
@rachelmichelle: Contract says that the deposit is nonrefundable for cancellation or change of wedding date.
Post # 6
Stop booking things until you’ve thought about it. You sound really impulsive. What does your fiance think about this?
Post # 7
@peachacid: Haha, I am really impulsive, but I normally don’t care about looking elsewhere once I’ve found something I love.
I loved my photographer, but working with them has become such a drag. Then I accidentally came across this other photog that I love so much more. Fiance says he’ll go along with whatever I decide because he knows I’m not going to be fussy about anything else. From Day 1 I stated the importance of photography, so even though this is unforseen, hopefully it won’t turn out to be a tragedy.
Post # 8
@peachacid: this! Slow down, do your research& discuss with your fi. I wouldn’t lose an $1800 deposit unless something major happened.
Post # 9
That happened to us but in a different context. We had a photographer we thought we loved but our engagement photos were not as good as we expected (even when we asked others for their opinions – including other photographers that are friends). We ended up breaking the contract with the first photographer and hired the second. We lost our deposit which was 50% of the package and was more than $2500 (forgot the exact amount). DH was really upset since he funded most of the wedding, but he was thrilled with the work of the second photographer. If you can afford it, you can certainly switch photographers but it’s highly unlikely you can get your deposit back, especially since they are not the ones breaking it.
Post # 10
Maybe youll get your deposit back… Youre more than a year out.
Post # 11
I would give it more time with the photographer you’ve already booked. You have 1 year, 5 months until your wedding. I would imagine your photographer is slammed right now during wedding season and probably feels like your wedding is not a huge priority at this time but will become more responsive as the date gets closer. (I’m only saying this because my caterer and photographer are nearly impossible to get ahold of, but it is only because they have events every weekend. My photographer even has weekdays with 2 and 3 shoots lined up.) I think they prioritize just like anyone else, and I can’t imagine what question is so critical this far out from the actual wedding date. But, I would also be careful about making impulsive decisions. One of the best pieces of advice I got was to pull back a little from my nonstop wedding planning so early, so I wouldn’t start wanting to change my mind about everything (and I got engaged with exactly 6 months to plan). Something drew you to this photographer in the first place, so I would stick with him/her for now.
Post # 12
@SavBride: I agree. Take a step back.
But if you cant do that. Ask the first photog to give back your deposit if they can book another wedding (less $100 for their time and effort)
Post # 13
I’d make sure and do your research, you have plenty of time. I actually had a situation where I booked a vendor (whom I did have good reveiws for) but in the end they kept changing pricing, stood me up and was horrible at responding. Luckily I got my deposit back. But since then I ask for previous clients that I can talk to.
Post # 14
i found most vendors make you a priority closer to the time. your photog is probably focussing on weddings coming up now, rather than one in almost 1.5 years time
doesnt mean theyre a bad photog
Post # 15
my vendors are all slow to respond…. sucks, I’m hanging in there though. Will let you know in about 22 days if it all works out! 🙂
Post # 16
@JackiBean: I would give it some time and sleep on it a little more. If you really feel like canceling is the best option at the end of the day, go for it. It sucks losing money, but at the same time I try to view it as “tuition.” Whenever I lose money on something impulsive I look at it as a lesson learned in my continuing “life education.” It definitely helps me get over it! Lol