- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Need some advice. I have some friends of mine that I love dearly – A (girl) and W (boy). They were a couple for almost 3 years and broke up a few months ago. I met them both at the same time and spent a lot of time with them. They’re both good friends with DH, too, and we love them both very much. They were in our wedding, and we’ve spent tons of time doing couple things with them. A moved up north about a year ago but made lots of trips down here, so they were already living apart when they broke up officially.
Now, W has been rather distant since the break-up, understandably so. I’m sure DH and I remind him of the old times when he was still with A. As far as talking to A, well, I do that every single day. She’s one of my best friends in the whole world, so of course, I know where she stands on her relationship with W, and what may or may not happen in the future. I don’t pressure her about anything – if she wants to talk to me, I’m here to listen. I would do the same for W, if he came to me with his frustrations.
I have stayed out of the middle of everything, until now.
I do not want to be involved in their stuff – not directly, you know? It’s not my place, and I don’t want to say the wrong thing. Anyway, W texted me today. We saw him on Sunday for the first time in months – which, we could tell was really rough on him.
His text said, “I need a favor. And please keep this between us. I’m F’n dying without A. I hate so bad not having her in my life. Is there any chance of her and I getting together? I’m pretty sure you know more about this than I do.”
What the heck do I do?? I don’t want him to feel like I’m on ‘her side’, but I don’t want to give him false hope, either. I just don’t know what to say. I care about him, too. I also feel like it’s not my place to tell him Yes or No on the subject. I don’t want A feeling weird about me talking to him about it, if for some reason he relays to her what I said. What a weird place to put me in. It SUCKS to see him in so much pain, but I can’t think of anything to say without making this situation go downhill, really fast.