Post # 1
I’m just wondering if anyone else out there has any opinions on this…
We’re cutting back on our budget on more traditional things like cake, flowers, and a DJ to squeeze in a coffee bar (we both wanted), gelato bar (fiance really wanted), and photo booth (I really wanted). We’re getting some great deals on them, which helps, but I feel like maybe I’ll be missing out on something. Sure, our cake won’t be awe-inspiring (but still tasty), and we’ll be doing the floral table centerpieces DIY and the bridesmaid bouquets will be smaller, and we’re getting a friend who’s going to DJ school who will be hooking us up with his services for free.
Of course when we told our parents about it, they all kind of threw a fit. Their reasoning wasn’t very clear, and I kind of blew them off since we’re paying for it. But are we missing something? Will it be obvious that we were stretching our budget, or maybe come off as being too carnival-ish?
Post # 3
Everyone will remember the gelato bar because its diffferent, photo booths are always fun & the coffee bar is a nice treat.
Remember: flowers die within days. Lots of people do their own DJing with iPods and the like. You’ll still have a cake, and with a gelato bar you don’t even really need that much to begin with.
I think you’re fine 🙂 If your parents reeeeeeeally want the traditional stuff, they can pay for them. Your money, your wedding, your way.
Post # 4
I say go for it…
We threw the traditional cake & flowers & DJ..
DIY paper flowers just placed on tables down table runner
Doing cupcakes (made by a friend) with a 1 teir cake to our liking for cutting (cost a whole 20 bucks)
DJ is a friend from church charging us 100 bucks
And I still think our wedding will be just as much “wedding” as the next… and no we didn’t “splurge” on the photobooth or such but are still having some very unique accents. ie. Vinyl Record “Plate Chargers”
hehe… Do what you and your Fiance want and I’m sure your guests will follow suite with the happiness =)
Post # 5
I guess it depends on how formal your wedding is. I think maybe you should pick one kind of bar, but if you truly want both- its your wedding, you’re paying for it, and its you who has to decide if those things are worth it. Its not like you’re missing out on cake, flowers, or DJ’s- you just found cheaper options! ps-I never knew there was a such thing as DJ school haha, class would be SO noisy.. what do they learn?
Post # 6
Can I come to your wedding!!??!?! Haha really though, it’s your guys’ money! Plus if you still had a cake, flowers, and some kind of music (iPod..etc) I don’t see why your family members would be so against it. A gelato bar sounds great 🙂
Post # 7
Okay, you guys are so sweet, thank you! I think it was just late at night and I was just being a worry wort. Looking at it today in the light with y’alls comments I’m feeling much better about it! And teacherandageek, who wouldn’t want to come, right? That’s what we were going for!
@kingytobe: DJ school does sound very noisy! haha 🙂 It’s actually some kind of tech/trade school where they learn to be music producers, radio djs or wedding djs. He said part of the reason he’s choosing the latter is for the $, and after I got some quotes from other people I believe him!
Post # 8
I am very much not traditional. I have gotten a couple of raised eye brows from it but honestly, it is my money and I can do what I want with it. Coffee bar and gelato bar sounds perfect together!
Post # 9
I think you’re fine! Let’s see, are people going to remember what the bridesmaids bouquets looked like, or how tasty the gelato bar was, or how much fun they had with the photo booth?
LOL at DJ school!!!
Post # 10
I would LOVE to go to a wedding with a coffee bar! And anything else that strays from the norm, for that matter. I say yes- ditch traditional for fun! Just depends on how important each thing is to you(as long as your not swapping something necessary, like chairs for the gelato haha). Your parents WILL get over it …
Post # 11
This sounds totally awesome, and think about it from your guests perspective – would they rather have a choice of an awesome coffee bar and a gelato bar, or have larger bridesmaid bouquets? Go for it!
Post # 12
All of those things sound like a lot of fun! A friend of mine told me that if you’re on a budget, you need to make a list of your priorities in order and realize that you can probably realistically get the stuff at the top of the list and you may have to compromise on the stuff toward the bottom.
I agree with PPs that it depends on how formal you want your wedding to be, but ultimately you make the rules! For our own wedding, we also felt that we wanted to invest more in things that would enhance the overall experience than to focus on solely the traditional wedding elements. I know florists would hate to hear this, but I don’t think I can remember a single bouquet or centerpiece from a friend’s wedding, but I definitely remember if I had a good time or not!
Post # 13
a coffee bar? I am loving that idea!!! Damn, now I want one!! I have to look into this now. Otherwise, I’m on your side. Your wedding sounds like it is going to be unique and alot of fun. I wish I was invited!
Post # 14
go for it! If it’s what you want, why not?!?! It sounds like it’s gonna be a lot of fun!!!!
We’re tossing all the typical traditional stuff and going with what we want… including costumes. Just found out last night, one guest is coming in a “bunny costume”… which my Fiance said looks like a pink easter bunny on an acid trip. I soooo can NOT wait!!!! especially since the wedding is AFTER EASTER!!!! PERFECT!!!! (oooooooh, maybe I should have an ‘easter’ basket set aside for him as a prop! LOL! bad, bad, bride!)
Post # 16
I honestly cannot remember any centerpieces of a wedding I’ve been to recently. I think your choices are definitely more memorable than flowers!