(Closed) Good Idea, bad idea – ditching tradional for fun?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Pffft, no.

Everyone will remember the gelato bar because its diffferent, photo booths are always fun & the coffee bar is a nice treat.

Remember: flowers die within days. Lots of people do their own DJing with iPods and the like. You’ll still have a cake, and with a gelato bar you don’t even really need that much to begin with.

I think you’re fine 🙂 If your parents reeeeeeeally want the traditional stuff, they can pay for them. Your money, your wedding, your way.

Post # 4
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I say go for it…

We threw the traditional cake & flowers & DJ..

DIY paper flowers just placed on tables down table runner

Doing cupcakes (made by a friend) with a 1 teir cake to our liking for cutting (cost a whole 20 bucks)

DJ is a friend from church charging us 100 bucks

And I still think our wedding will be just as much “wedding” as the next… and no we didn’t “splurge” on the photobooth or such but are still having some very unique accents. ie. Vinyl Record “Plate Chargers”

hehe… Do what you and your Fiance want and I’m sure your guests will follow suite with the happiness =)

Post # 5
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I guess it depends on how formal your wedding is. I think maybe you should pick one kind of bar, but if you truly want both- its your wedding, you’re paying for it, and its you who has to decide if those things are worth it. Its not like you’re missing out on cake, flowers, or DJ’s- you just found cheaper options! ps-I never knew there was a such thing as DJ school haha, class would be SO noisy.. what do they learn?

Post # 6
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can I come to your wedding!!??!?! Haha really though, it’s your guys’ money! Plus if you still had a cake, flowers, and some kind of music (iPod..etc) I don’t see why your family members would be so against it. A  gelato bar sounds great 🙂

Post # 8
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am very much not traditional. I have gotten a couple of raised eye brows from it but honestly, it is my money and I can do what I want with it. Coffee bar and gelato bar sounds perfect together! 

Post # 9
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think you’re fine! Let’s see, are people going to remember what the bridesmaids bouquets looked like, or how tasty the gelato bar was, or how much fun they had with the photo booth?

LOL at DJ school!!!

Post # 10
4109 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would LOVE to go to a wedding with a coffee bar! And anything else that strays from the norm, for that matter. I say yes- ditch traditional for fun! Just depends on how important each thing is to you(as long as your not swapping something necessary, like chairs for the gelato haha). Your parents WILL get over it …

Post # 11
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

This sounds totally awesome, and think about it from your guests perspective – would they rather have a choice of an awesome coffee bar and a gelato bar, or have larger bridesmaid bouquets? Go for it!

Post # 12
2580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

All of those things sound like a lot of fun! A friend of mine told me that if you’re on a budget, you need to make a list of your priorities in order and realize that you can probably realistically get the stuff at the top of the list and you may have to compromise on the stuff toward the bottom.

I agree with PPs that it depends on how formal you want your wedding to be, but ultimately you make the rules! For our own wedding, we also felt that we wanted to invest more in things that would enhance the overall experience than to focus on solely the traditional wedding elements. I know florists would hate to hear this, but I don’t think I can remember a single bouquet or centerpiece from a friend’s wedding, but I definitely remember if I had a good time or not!

Post # 13
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

a coffee bar? I am loving  that idea!!! Damn, now I want one!! I have to look into this now. Otherwise, I’m on your side. Your wedding sounds like it is going to be unique and alot of fun. I wish I was invited!

Post # 14
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

go for it!  If it’s what you want, why not?!?!  It sounds like it’s gonna be a lot of fun!!!!

We’re tossing all the typical traditional stuff and going with what we want… including costumes.  Just found out last night, one guest is coming in a “bunny costume”… which my Fiance said looks like a pink easter bunny on an acid trip.  I soooo can NOT wait!!!!  especially since the wedding is AFTER EASTER!!!!  PERFECT!!!! (oooooooh, maybe I should have an ‘easter’ basket set aside for him as a prop! LOL! bad, bad, bride!)


Post # 15
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012
Post # 16
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I honestly cannot remember any centerpieces of a wedding I’ve been to recently.  I think your choices are definitely more memorable than flowers! 

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