Post # 1
Fiance and I are planning to go to brunch at my current top-choice venue. We were thinking to invite both of our parents along (FI even offered to pay). Parents include: my dad and stepmom; my mom and stepdad; his mom and dad. One or more of my half brothers (all under 18) may also attend.
(A Note here: my mom, dad, and step parents all get along fine… though my mom and stepdad have NOT yet met my stepmom. But she’s a wonderful lady!)
We figured this way everyone gets to meet everyone officially (dad and stepmom have met FI’s father before) and offer input on the venue. I can also schedule to meet with the wedding coordinator for the venue if we would like to see accomodations, etc. (Not everyone would have to stick around for that part).
BUT here I am questioning if this is too much at once or what… I know it’s quite early, but we would like to book our venue asap so that we can get our preferred date.
So. Vote away… good idea/not good idea, and please tell me why!
Post # 3
(All caps is rude but I just typed this in an email to inky and I thought I’d share for any future bees that stumble upon this looking for advice for a similar situation. Sorry in advance for caps!)
I HONESTLY THINK IT MIGHT BE NICE TO NOT HAVE THAT BE THEIR FIRST MEETING. MAKE IT AT CALM/RELAXED ENVIRONMENT WHERE YOU’RE DOING NOTHING BUT INTRODUCING THE TWO FAMILIES. YOU AND KEVIN WILL BE DISTRACTED LOOKING AT THE VENUE WITH NEW EYES AND IT JUST WON’T BE THE SAME. MY VOTE, BY FAR, IS TO MEET FIRST AND THEN AT A DIFFERENT TIME EVERYBODY CAN GO TO BRUNCH THERE.
Post # 4
And I just typed this as a response 😛
The only problem is that I need my parents all to get their butts to the venue so they can decide if we can book it. Since they’re paying…they have to have input. And so I feel it’s only fair to include my in laws in that decision…
and I don’t want to wait too long :
Alternatively, we could all just go for brunch just to sit down to brunch… it’d be the same as meeting at any other restaurant, only it’s technically on our potential venue list.
Then, I could schedule the legit venue walk-through and “pay for things” portion later without everyone being there. (cus 35% of our expected contract total is due at signing.)
Actually I think that’s probably a better idea…
SO..nix meeting with the coordinator. It would JUST be a sit down and have brunch at this place.
Post # 5
I like that idea better 🙂 (But I still suggest meeting for coffee or at a park for an hour or so before going to brunch. Just gives everyone a little bit to acquaint without going into full-criqique mode, y’know?)
Post # 6
@RMBsbride: I just don’t think that’s going to happen. Kevin’s parents don’t really go out that much, my mom and stepdad live in Virginia while the venue is in Maryland…it’s kind of crazy trying to get this all planned without hurting anyone’s feelings.
I don’t care about details yet AT ALL mind you — I just want the venue booked for our preferred date (October 13) and then I’ll shut up until we’re 9 months out from the wedding lol.
Post # 7
I think it’s a good idea. I would schedule the coordinator for after the brunch for just you and your Fiance. May as well not waste the time that you have there, right?
Post # 8
Sometimes it’s easier when people are meeting for the first time, if they do have something else to focus on. Meeting and greeting while discussing the venue, the food etc might help everyone to relax.
The downside might be that they may have difficulty giving you honest feedback in front of the other relatives. You could always contact them individually afterwards to validate their comments.