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@MeganTacky2247: Ive never seen one. They just arent done in my family/group of friends.
If theyre common in your area, then go for it. If you feel uncomortable, then don't.
I think Dollar dances are tacky! They take forever, the bridal party gets board as well as the other guests who have already danced with the bride and groom. I am doing something a little different. All you need is: Two decorated buckets of sorts, a fun upbeat song, best man, matron/maid of honor. Rules are: whoever collects the most amount of money Groom(best man is collectiing) or Bride(Matron of honor is collecting) will "wear the pants" in the marriage. I have seen it done before, it is so much fun!!! I couldn't believe how many guests got involved and really had a good time!
We didnt do one. but my uncles came up to us towards the end of the wedding and gave us extra money and told us to have some extra fun on our honeymoon. i think if people are going to give you money they will anways and dont need the dance to do it.
I always thought it was kind of the norm... but then again I've only seen it at Asian weddings.
I say go for it! It's a nice way to dance with family and stuff. In June, we were at a wedding and I pinned a $20 on the groom, the son of a really close friend of my parents. It was really sweet, and gave us a minute to catch up.
The idea of them running around is cute! :) And yea, I suspect that if people are going to give you something extra, they will... not just bc you go around asking for it. Who knows. But i like the inputs!!! :)
We are having kinda a short recpetion anyway, so i partially dont want to waste the time doing it... but if we did it just for a song or 2.
The best man isnt really an "outgoing" person per say... lol I bet he wouldnt do it. But that just means my girl would kick his A** lol
When I lived in the south, it was very common to have a dollar dance, and most people really enjoy it. I like it, it's fun and gives me a moment to dance/talk with the happy couple, and the couple gets a little extra cash which they will certainly need.
In NY it is not a custom, so we are not having it at our wedding; in fact my FI was confused when we attended a southern wedding because he did not know what they were doing. If people are not used to it, they might say it is tacky.
My FI wants to do this but I don't... were still "talking" it out... I don't think it's tacky I just don't want to dance with anyone other than my FI and my son that night... =/
They're common here. I don't think we'll do one, just because I always felt weird when they were announced. Like, you feel cheap if you didn't bring a dollar with you to dance with the bride/groom (I suppose that could be eliminated if there were a cash bar or something though). I dunno, I always feel uncomfortable being on the other side of it, so I know I'd be uncomfortable being the one having it.
In our world that's a strictly filipino thing to do. As a Chinese bride it would be frowned upon.
We did (its pretty customary in our group of friends, and culturally EVERYONE does it) and we got $1000 so to me it was worth it even if it was a little tacky :-) but if you aren't comfortable with it then I wouldn't do it because then it will for sure be awkward.
it's not common at all among my friends / family
@vmec: I went to a Philipino wedding that did it. they had a lot of fun! I liked the money crown that one lady made.
We are doing one but they are very common in our area people like it from what I hear and its another good way tothank each guest for comming. Also its a nice gesture your not asking for 20 dollars per person.
We're doing it. I'm Polish and it's a cultural thing. We'll play polka music and it will be tons of fun; you get to take a shot before you dance with the bride or groom :) It's been done at every single wedding my family has ever had and I'm so excited it's finally my turn! It's great to have a chance to dance with anyone who wants to see you even if it's quick.
Yay for being tacky, I fully embrace it!
It's common in my family but not in FI's. He had never heard of a dollar dance and was pretty taken aback by it. Even if FI wanted one, I'd put my foot down and say no. My family will give me the gift/money they feel comfortable with, and I'll dance with anyone who asks without needing to be paid. We'll be visiting tables to be sure we at least get to say hello to everyone.
The "games" where you just collect money make me uncomfortable.
It's a cultural thing. If it's the norm in your circle, do it. If it's not, people will find it tacky.
@MeganTacky2247:This kind of spur of the moment happened at our wedding and it was awesome. We didn't make lots of $$, but we did get some private time with people who wouldn't have come up to us otherwise. I would do it again!
Not a fan of the dollar dance, it's just not done in my family or circle of friends. I understand that it's quite accepted in some families and cultures so if that's true in your situation, do it. BUT, if you want to do it solely for the cash, please refrain.
it depends on your area/family/friends. is it what you are used to?
almost every wedding i've been to had a dollar dance. everyone looks forward to it in my family. i always make sure i have bills in my purse when i go to a wedding.
I'm debating the same question. I want to do one but my mom thinks it's tacky :(
@lindsey_k_16: That is such a cute idea. I also read about someone who made a kissing bucket and people had to come up to the head table and put money in the jar to get the couple to kiss insead of just banging their forks on their glasses.
Dollar dances are very common in my area, I have never been to a wedding that didnt have one. So we will have one as well. I think it is a good way for you to have one on one time with the guests that want to besides making your rounds to all the tables etc. Of course if someone didnt have a dollar its not the end of the world lol. For me its just a way for guests to have a special moment with you without other people. I dont know how money became involved in that but I guess its always nice to have extra cash. idk.
TACKY, TACKY, TACKY! Really, you are going to ask guest to come to your event/wedding, and then ask them for money to dance/spend time with you? As if their gift or them even coming isn't enough.
Please rethink this one. For no reason should you be ASKING FOR MONEY at Your wedding!!! You wouldn't pass a collection plate at your birthday party?
Every wedding I have ever been to has had a dollar dance BUT weddings on my Fi's side of the family.
He is Macedonian Orthodox so they do the pig dance where all of the groomsmen and bridesmaids come out banging pots and pans together while carrying a huge roasted pig. 2 groomsmen go ahead of the party and poor vodka down peoples throats and everyone throws money onto the pig as it passes by.
It sounds vulgar but it's fun. However, while I do not think a dollar dance is tacky, just the norm, I will not have a dollar dance and a pig dance because that is really money grabbing!
If I'm reading right, OP says she finds dollar dances to be tacky because they are a money grab. But then she learned how much money another family member got from one, so she thinks she may want to do one anyway and is asking if they are tacky or not.
So, my answer is...yes, doing a dollar dance would be in poor taste. Why? Because if you feel it is tacky when others do it and are doing it only because you realized it might get you more money, then you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Doing a dollar dance (or anything else) just to get more money from your guests is just not very nice.
BUT, if you are doing a dollar dance because that is part of your culture, because your guests expect it and look forward to it, then it is not tacky. But that doesn't sound to be the case at all here.
Haha, my cousin did it and got like $200. I didn't do it though, for various reasons (none of which have to do with a tacky/non-tacky factor, lol).
It really, really depends on your family/culture.
Like you said, if someone wants to give you an extra dollar (or $100) they'll give it to you in a card.... right?
Unless the dollar dance is their norm. In our family, you bring extra cash for the dollar dance. You may not put as much in the card BECAUSE you know you'll give them a $5 or a $20 during this dance.
For my dance, $DH and I together got a little over $200. I got a $20 from my FIL, and DH got $20's from all his aunts.
So, if your family is used to it, they won't think it's tacky, but I certainly wouldn't tell a bride who had never seen it done to have one.
Despite it being part of the Filipino tradition to do a dollar dance, we are not planning to do it because we find it tacky (not to mention that often the dollars are pinned on in inappropriate places).
Hopefully not too many people will be let down that we're not doing it.
its a cultural thing. We do it and nobody has to take part if they dont want. In our family we have so much fun with it, we make the dollars into bows and give them a tail and men pay to dance with the groom as well as girls pay to dance with the bride. Its fun!
and instead of pinning it on your dress, you can have a sash to pin it on.
I say Who cares what it looks like, you should have fun! we always end up in tears from laughter or just joy. and it doesnt hurt you get free money
@HoyaLawya2010: Ditto! It's a polish thing. I grew up with it. To me, it's as common as the father/daughter dance. It's not tacky because it's not about the money. It's about tradition and getting to dance a bit with all of your guests.
If you're doing it just to get extra money, then I guess I would consider it tacky.
My family expects the dollar dance, and I can't wait to have it at my wedding! Oh, and I Love it when I go to a wedding and they have the dollar dance. It gives me an opportunity to dance with the bride and groom, if only for a few moments.
The Money Dance has been at most wedding I have gone to. I never really thought anything of it until my cousin was married and my Uncle said he would not allow his new son in law to sell his daughter for a few dollars, even if it was for a dance. I think what he said was a little harsh but I get it. I wasn't planning on doing the Dollar/Money dance but my Fiance said they do it at all their family weddings. Hmmm... and I thought maybe a Charity Dance. Half or all the money goes to Charity??? But then again it will be several songs that only the groom and I will be dancing and our guests will be sitting out. I just don't know if that will be worth it.
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So, I was thinking... I have been to plenty of weddings where they have the "dollar dance" I generally think its tacky. I mean, you give the bride and groom gifts. If you wanted to give them another dollar you would. Also, the bride and groom are just like... hanging out... and being traded off after 45 seconds... I dunno... just always seemed kinda weird. HOWEVER< getting closer to the wedding... it might just work out. lol. I was at my cousins wedding recently and my grandpa gave the bride $100.00 when he went and danced with her... Do more relatives do this??
LOL. over all...
Dollar dance... cute or tacky?? THAT is the question! :)