Post # 1
I just hate that statistic! And the best part is, it’s not even entirely true. If you’re over the age of 25, your “50%” goes down. If you’re college educated, your “50%” goes down. If both sets of parents are still married, your “50%” goes down. If you’ve been together for more than 3 years before you marry…it goes down. If you do not have a child together before marriage, it goes down.
If you have 3 of these things, the percentage goes so far down it’s in the sigle digits! I know we can’t be described by statistics, but I just hate when I hear the wedding debbie downers shoot this stat in my face! SO THERE YOU HATERS!! Marriage is do-able!
Post # 3
Yay! We’ll have 3 of those when we get married!!! Well, Fiance is in college-so almost 4! lol.
Post # 4
I guess we are good. I have all three and the hubs has 2 out of the 3.
Yay for the married people 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve heard it’s lower for first marriages as well.
I do think it’s important to remember that those individual factors will NOT cause your marriage to succeed or fail though — young couples, encore couples, couples with kids, children of divorced parents, less educated couples, etc. can still have incredible, successful marriages! It’s a lot about the expectations you approach life with and the way in which you and your SO interact and work together, as well as the things that come at you later in life (tragedy, like the death of a child, can often cause emotional damage that changes peoples’ personalities, and often leads to divorce).
Post # 6
i thought it was 50% of mariages end in divorce, not 50% of people. so those who divorce more than once are just helping the stats for the rest of us!
Post # 7
Haha! Glad to hear that. My parents aren’t married anymore but I definitely know me & my Fiance will work out with no problem! 🙂
Post # 8
That statistic isn’t correct anyways b/c it accounts for people who get remarried and divorced again and again 🙂
Post # 9
Where did you find this? I would be interested in reading more.
Post # 10
@daydream—ABSOLUTELY what you say is completely correct. It’s the dumb people who say this like it’s totally factual, under all circumstances. This stat is the percentage of all marriages that will end in divorce. So many people get married, the information I gave is the profile of people who’s marriages TEND to work more often than not. Catch me?
But, you are so correct, no one can fit into a statistic completely. We are people, not numbers!
Post # 12
@Headuh—I’m taking a Psych class at a local college, called “Marriage and Family”. Haha, I had the extra time, and figured since I’m getting married, I may as well learn a thing or two about what the experts say! It’s been fun to be back in college! I will try to find some more info online and get it to you.
Post # 13
No biggie, I can look too 😉
Post # 14
We have 3 and a half (my parents are together but his are divorced). This was such a great thing to share VirginiaMarie!
Post # 15
Nice post. Fiance and I are 3/4. My parents are still together (and still doing it! I stumbled upon my mom’s “drawer”. It was terrifying, but I am happy they are still happy), but his parents never married eachother, and have 7 marriages between them (and 7 divorces).
While people defy statistics, for good and bad, all of the time, I like looking at the world this way. What it tells me is that Fiance and I have to pay special attention to his attitudes about our relationship, as he doesn’t have a good role model. I also need to make sure I don’t default to my childhood expectations without discussing them with him.
This is where the power of stats comes in, IMO.
Post # 16
I’m college educated but my parents are not still together, but are great friends. In fact they have not been together since I was 6 but have made it important that we do things as a fanily all my life. Every year my father would stay at my mothers house on xmas eve, for example, and we would have christmas as a family. Pretty awesome, if you ask me.
He is not college educated (but works in a career oriented field -engineering, that he happened to get because they gave him a shot– almost 5 years later he’s still there and now has all the certifications that he needs to advance even more so i kind of consider him as practically college educated. You never would know without asking!) His parents are still together.
When our wedding occurs we will be about 3 months shy of being together 3 years so yeeeah I hope thats close enough to count, haha.