Post # 1
I read this article on someone’s FB and thought it was very touching and true. I see so many posts here and on other sites about women who are unhappy with their fiance’s lack of fanfare in a proposal and I’m always frustrated by it. I’m in the opposite position, my SO is insistent on planning a big, spectacular surprise for a proposal when I would be happy with an on the couch moment, but I think that’s why this article is so good. It’s not about how he proposes, it’s about what follows. It’s a Christian based article, but take out the religion and Christ and it is still very true and meaningful – remembering what marriage is all about
The Real Truth About “Boring” Men
Post # 4
Romantic chick flics have ruined people’s perspectives of what is important. This article hits the nail on the head. Thank you for posting and reminding us that taking out the garbage is a romantic gesture. My guy ran out to buy me tampons thus week and I fell in love all over again. Those everyday things make him a rock star in my eyes.
Post # 5
This made me tear up a little. It made me think of my grandparents. It is important to remember that romance isn’t always a Nicolas Sparks novel, but there is a flip side: it’s important to not let romance fade into the monotany of every day life. Don’t let yourselves start taking each other for granted.
Post # 6
I didn’t even make it halfway through before I started crying. THIS is why I married my husband.
Post # 7
Great article [even though I skipped all over the christian parts of it].
It’s a reminder that everyone needs.. a flashy proposal is nice, but what should matter is that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
Post # 8
@carolinabelle: oh the tears are flowing. Especially the part about the 50 yrs of marriage, that was my grand parents to a T.
Post # 9
Oldtimer here… and Encore Bride (married over 20 years the first time)
OMGosh YES !!!
THIS IS IT …
This is what Marriage truly is about…
Growing old, and growing together… thru good times, bad & sad.
I am bawling my eyes out here… like you would not believe !!
In my life this is the definition of TRUE LOVE… this is what I truly hope for… and WORK for … nothing more, nothing less, this is perfection in a photograph
Someone to walk thru life with, one supporting the other… physically, emotionally, spiritually
This article, is also WHY I get so frickin frustrated when I read posts on WBee by women who are SETTLING for less in a Man (hey I used to be one of them)
Life is short… life is hard
Find a man who can be boring enough to to be this type of man… the superficial stuff will fade. Having a GOOD & KIND HEART… being head over heels in love… and being your ROCK (and you his) because life will change you over time from the inside out, outside in, and back again … THAT IS WHAT TRULY MATTERS !!
Having someone who can be there for you for better for worse… foresaking all others… including themselves at times.
May we all find it !!
Post # 10
I didn’t read the whole thing (once it started getting Christian, I stopped), but the proposal of how he just had a red velvet box and asked her to marry him – I think that’s still super romantic!!! It might not be elaborate or over the top, but I don’t think it’s boring at all, it’s really sweet! The “snowy dark” makes it even more romantic. Maybe I just think it’s romantic that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. lol
Post # 11
This was beautiful and oh so true… I am so blessed that I have a “boring man”, a man who has helped me change my pads after my c section when i couldnt physucally do it, a man who plunges the toilets and cleans up kiddy puke… And who loves me through it all.
Post # 12
@carolinabelle: I had a “lackluster” proposal and, honestly, it was perfect. I would have hated all the attention that comes with a big proposal.
I’m far from religious, so all the religious stuff turned me off a bit, but I think this was my favorite line of the article:
“Because get this, kids — How a man proposes isn’t what makes him romantic. It’s how a man purposes to lay down his life that makes him romantic.“
Post # 13
Beautiful. I honestly started tearing up.
Post # 14
I cried. That’s the love and life I want for myself and for my Hubby-to-be. We’re doing well so far 🙂
Post # 15
My DH’s proposal wasn’t the over the top proposal. But, I knew he put so much thought into making it a special, meaningful moment for us and that it was about his promise to me and our future promise to each other. 🙂
Post # 16
I stopped reading when it was talking about the “amniotic ocean” (ew lol) but definitely a good article. FH and I talk about how excited we are, not just for the wedding and finally living together, but for when i get pregnant, when we can take our kids to our schools’ football games, learning about everything together.