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I'm kind of experiencing baby fever right now...which sucks because we're not even close to being ready. We probably won't try until late 2013. So I'm trying to make a list of reasons I'm glad we aren't having a baby yet...got any good ones?
You don't have to push an 8 lb person out of your lady parts ;-)
SLEEEEEEEEEP.
Financials.
Your body (and hormones!) are still your own
Career.
Cost of child care.
I agree with travel. That's our main reason right now is to travel a lot of places before having a baby.
@SoontobeMrsA: No house yet...thats one of the reasons we won't try til 2013.
@LGenz: Hahahahaha thats a good one
POOP, PEE, VOMIT, DECREASED SEX LIFE, COLLIC, BOOGERS, NO SLEEP, NO TIME TO SHOWER, BABY WEIGHT, BABY CEREAL (THAT STUFF IS GROSS), DIRTY DIAPERS, LOOSING FRIENDS WHO JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF PARENTHOOD, INLAWS OPNIONS, YOUR OWN MOMS OPINION
I'm confused. we still go out for sushi, at least once every 2 weeks, drink beers and wine at least once a week, and eat soft serve ice cream all the time, and we have a baby!!! Well, actually a toddler now :)
But to the OP,
Sleep, Perky boobs, Being able to watch TV shows, that aren't on treehouse.
No sleep for the rest of your life.
Silence will be forever lost. Think about the relentless whining and crying you're NOT dealing with right now.
Privacy is a concept unknown to parents.
In-law drama. Hopefully you don't already have it, but if you have a kid you will/it'll get worse.
Your figure will be baby-mangled.
Sex goes out the window.
Being able to spend money on yourself will be a thing of the past.
You'll get stretch marks, which goes along with the figure thing.
Being able to go wherever you want, whenever you want is not an option with a baby. When you have a baby, you have to go to only baby-friendly places, schedule outings around naptimes, and you have to take the whole house with you when you go.
You won't be able to drink during pregnancy and nursing... assuming you drink and assuming you'll nurse.
You don't own a home, yet.
You haven't had enough alone time with your hubby yet. Take some years to bond and grow in your marriage.
You probably haven't traveled enough. Traveling with a baby is not fun.
Now that your wedding is over, people's annoying opinions are out of your life. If you get pregnant, be prepared for opinion overload until your child grows up.
Daycare is expensive, and so is college.
Like another poster said, you can say bye-bye to your non-kid having friends. I don't have kids, and I don't enjoy hanging out with women who do (if their kids have to come along).
Having a child is full of the worst kind of digsusting stuff. Snot, boogers, poop (sometimes it's diarrhea that escapes through the diaper and ruins the pants, sometimes it's so hard you'll have to pull the poop out of your child's butt yourself), vomit, blood (when they get older and start getting hurt).
Being pregnant means morning (anytime of day) sickness and constant doctors appts. where you'll be poked and prodded with needles.
I could probably go on all night, but I'll leave it at this.
Do you like hearing the question "Why?" all the time, in answer to every thing you say? (or, for a fun varioation, "No!") Not yet? That's cool, you have a few years to get used to it. :)
@Pinksapphire: Not that you don't LOVE being a mother, right? LOL!
I second everything on that list!!
And I'd like to add:
You know why I'm on WB right now? Because I'm waiting for MB to get sleepy and go to bed for the night. And right now she is cuddling in my lap saying BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH BAH...MAMA! MAMA! MAMA!! BAH BAH BAH GIRGL GLA GOL GOL GLA GLO GOL GLA BLAGOLAMAMA!!! She is also trying to ninja sneak a swipe at my soda which I have to move out of reach every 30 seconds. Also the tv remote, and telephone which she routinely uses to call 911 when I'm not paying attention. And when she DOES fall asleep, me and DH will just sit here because as much as we'd like to go see a movie, we are anchored to our house as of approximately 7pm when bedtime goes down unless one of us wants to run to the store alone to get the shopping done at 8pm that we couldn't get done at 5pm because that's dinner time. I would like to set her on the floor, but then she'll scream and fuss. So I have to sit here holding her and wait for her to be tired enough to put to bed.
I was going to say because you don't have a baby saying "Walk. Walk. Walk. Walk!" who refuses to go to sleep at 9:15 because she would like to continue walking and she wants me to be with her every step of the way. I wanna watch the news and collapse... but then this is adorable too!
@Cash000: Those are no no's for preggos. = )
You don't feel sick all the time if you're not pregnant...and you get to nap when you want.
Not having to decorate your home in primary colors and have most of the open spaces taken up by baby toys.
Not having to prepare 30 minutes in advance to go anywhere, because of all the gear you have to bring. You can never just go anywhere on a dime once you're toting a baby.
Having a quiet moment to yourself to just think.
Being able to curse in your home when you want.
Sleeping for more than 3 hours at a time.
Having adult conversations that doesn't revolve around burping, pooping, diapers, blankies, or bottles.
My reasons...
It's so much easier to be in college without a baby, I want to finish my degree first!
Our house is too small.
It sounds a bit selfish, but I'm not quite ready to give up my free time and have a person who I'm completely responsible for and have to consider with all of the decisions I make in life.
Babies are forever. Oce you have one your life changes and you can't go back for at least 21 years.
Also delivering a child involves lots of blood and gross that I am so not ready for.
Enjoy being able to do everything you want to do now, because when you have a baby the two words you will live daily are sacrifice and guilt.
I love my son more than anything, but man it's hard work!
@Pinksapphire: Lol thanks now I'll probably never want to procreate! 
@hilsy85: Why can't you eat soft serve ice cream if you're pregnant or nursing?
LOL this thread made me laugh - I am trying to convince my husband for baby number two which I really want (to get pregnant in October) - Guess I shouldn't show him this list - it will just be a reminder lol.
Thanks for the laugh ladies!
We’re years from having babies for the following reasons…
Money: They cost a friggin’ fortune. I am so not ready to make that financial commitment. I enjoy pampering myself and having pretty things. Once kids come along their needs are all that matters. Call me selfish but I’d prefer to spend our money on us and the things we want to do, not diapers and formula.
Time: I like having free time. I like sleeping in. I like not taking 3 hours to prepare myself to go to Target just because I have a kid in tow.
Sleep: I need a full 8 hours or else I’m a serious bitch in the morning. If I had a kid right now, I’d probably sleep straight through the night even if said kid was screaming in my ear. Don’t mess with my sleep!
Friends: I like having time for other people. My friends with kids hardly do anything but “mommy”. Yea, that doesn’t seem appealing. Maybe down the road but right now, no thanks!
Life experiences: There are so many things that I want to do and see before a kid ties me down. As much as everyone wants to believe that they’ll still be able to do the same things that they did pre-baby, it’s just not true in some (most) cases. I have friends who loved to travel and do fun stuff. They swore up and down that they’d still continue doing the same things after baby. Guess what? They were wrong. They’re basically chained to their house 24/7. The bi-weekly trip to the grocery store is the most action these people see. If you ask me, that sounds horrible.
Relationship: Everyone thinks that babies will bring you closer to your partner but sometimes that’s just not true. I know a couple who literally HATE each other ever since they had kids. They fight constantly. I’m not saying this is the norm by any means but I think it happens more than we think.
Pregnancy: I’m not ready to give up the things that I love which is basically everything that you’re not supposed to have/do when you’re pregnant. I’m not ready to be poked and prodded. I’m not ready to have people constantly touching me. I don’t have much of a figure as it is but what I do have, I’m not ready to lose.
Childbirth: Having been in the room when my cousin was born I can honestly say that it was the most disgusting thing I have ever seen. Sure it was “magical” and a “miracle” or whatever else people refer to it is as but it was equally gross and terrifying.
Recovery: I was just talking to one of my friends about the whole child birth process and she said that recovery was considerably worse than the actual birth. She said it was 6 weeks of pure torture. I’m not ready to willingly subject myself to that.
I’m sure babies are great and all but right now, it’s all about FI and I and our needs. Maybe it’s selfish but I thoroughly enjoy our family of 3 (us and the cat).
@UpstateCait: I was going to write a list and then I read yours. You pretty much covered it! The big ones for me are: free time with my husband and friends, my career (I could have kids but the free time definitely goes out the window), and the loss of flexibility over our life.
As somone who won't be having kids, I really love this thread :)
@KristenGotMarried: As someone on the fence about kids I need to stop refreshing this thread
When I get the baby bug a very dear friend of mine always reminds me, when you give birth your vagina will most likely rip/tear or you will be cut, you will have to get stitches. When you give birth you will most likely poop on the table, in front of any friends and family that are in the room, your DH, your Dr., the nurses, etc. Those 2 things alone are enough to make me think, I just am not ready!
ha my dh and i added up all the credit cards, student loans, debt (besides our house and my car) that wed like to pay off and it came to over 12,000.... yea..... thats right... thats enough to make up wait lol!!!!
Morning sex. Lunch-time sex. In the middle of cooking dinner on the kitchen floor sex. Watching a movie fooling around on the couch sex. Middle of the night cuddle sex. We're out of clean laundry so we'll just stay naked sex. All of the previous require significant ADVANCE PLANNING and/or go out the window post-baby.
@inspiredcreationsbyhaley: Lol, watch out or all your reasons are going to LEAD to a baby!
I'll add to the list: insurmountable piles of laundry (how does she go through so many clothes in a day?!) and being able to read something other parenting books in your "free time."
This list is just what I needed! SIL is pregnant and I was feeling the baby bug...but these lists kicked it a step back. I'm just not ready or all that right now!
Ohmigosh! If you can go a few more years without the whining and lack of privacy then you should. (Disclaimer: I love my daughter and would not trade her in for the world). Here are some more: poop that does not stay in the diaper, everyones opinions on child-rearing, and extra money (papmers are so expensive)!
We are TTC now, but for a long time my list went a little something like this:
@MrsMaine: I'm sorry you're going through a rough time, but why go into a thread with this title feeling as you do? Seems like you know it would only make you feel worse. Clearly it's intended for us bees who aren't ready for or don't want children - there are plenty of threads for those who feel the opposite that wouldn't make you feel bad, I'm sorry this one did.
@Cash000: I meant while being pregnant :)
@kate169: I believe that soft serve ice cream machines have a higher risk of carrying listeria, which is a bacteria.
http://www.suite101.com/content/softserve-ice-cream-and-pregnancy-a64166
I won't fit into my dress that is bought and paid for
I won't be able to drink champagne on my wedding day
Other than that, I am good to go and cannot wait! So heres hoping to a honeymoon baby!!
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