Post # 1
A couple things in the past several days that make me feel more trusting of Fi, and more hopeful about us:
1. Started going to premarital counseling. REALLY NEED IT. So far we’ve gone once and it went well. It means a lot to me that FI agreed to go, and that he’s owning up to his own part in things. We’ll see how it goes…
2. We *might* postpone the wedding…that may not sound like “great news,” but it could bring some relief and give us the time that we need. More importantly, it’s a decision that WE are making TOGETHER, as equals, not FI throwing a tantrum and deciding whatever he wants on a whim.
3. I caught sight of a bought a book he bough called “10,000 Ways to Say I love you.” I know it may not sound like anything huge, but for someone like him, who basically doesn’t take advice from anyone and thinks he knows best, it was a meaningful gesture.
So…these are improvements, and especially the counseling was something I needed to see him willing to do, so I hope things just keep getting better.
Thanks, bees, for all your support and for being here!!
Post # 3
Oh rock on! Glad to hear that you’re happy with the way things are progressing. PS: I have that book too! Hahah it’s cute. I wish you two lots of luck!
Post # 5
Awesome for you that the two of you are working things out. It sounds like you are both putting in the effort to get what you are hoping for. That is the first and most important step 🙂
Also, about #2, please do what you and your FH feel is best for you as a couple. I have not been in your shoes, but can imagine that it must be scary to think about making that decision because of possible backlash from friends/family. Those who care about you will understand and support your decision to take some time off to work on your relationship before marriage. Good luck 🙂
Post # 6
i think its a great idea no 2 if u wish to.nothing worst thsn shoulda couloda woulda.take the time u need now so that u have a open commubication marriage where u guys dont shut down on each otherf
Post # 7
Sounds like wonderful steps in the right direction. Help him keep up the good work!
Post # 8
so good to hear from you! was wondering how you were doing, you and your FI def seem to baking steps in the right direction!
good luck joygirl!!
Post # 9
Thank you, bees…
I’m just taking it one day at a time. It’ll make me crazy if I obssess over whether or not to postpone…so we will come to that decision when we need to, I guess…
I’m going to counseling on my own in addition to the premarital that FI and I are doing together, because I do think I need to talk through/work out some things in my own mind–I’m a talker!
Thanks again for your support and concern!