- 3 years ago
My boyfriend and I live together and have been dating 2.5 years. He gave me an engagement timeline of getting engaged around the 3 year mark (which is March of 2014) when we moved in together in January. Then he made it pretty clear that he had other things to focus on before we got engaged and that he did not want to talk about weddings/engagement until the three year mark got closer.
It was tough, but I followed the advice of Mr. Bee and a few other Bee’s and shut up about anything wedding-related for a few months. Recently, it’s become really obvious that engagement and marriage is on the forefront of his mind. He told me that we’ll be going to look at rings before the end of the year. He’s brought up weddings on his own a few times recently, wanting to talk about where we’d like to get married or how big of a wedding we’d want. He even admitted that he’s started doing some engagement ring research on his own and inquired as to what cut or size I’d like for my ring.
I’m floored, honestly, and really happy with these new developments. Like I did trust that he’d stick to his timeline, but it seemed like wedding talk made him so uncomfortable sometimes that it was hard to imagine him ever taking the initiative to propose. But now it seems like he’s fully onboard with it, and he even commented that me backing off and trusting him made him a lot more comfortable with the idea of proposing. My little sister got married recently and I did not give him a hard time about it at all, which I think helped even more.
So basically I’m just excited that after months of being patient, things are finally starting to move forward! I think I’ll be engaged within the next 6 months, and after waiting for so long, that feels really soon. I can’t wait. 🙂 And to my fellow Waiting Bees, making your expectations known with regard to getting engaged and then dropping the subject really does work. 🙂