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Just curious if other woman have experienced not so nice comments about their engagement ring. I LOVE mine. It is my dream ring. Tacori 2620PR. 1.08 carat with fine pave diamonds around the main stone. Also very fine Pave Diamonds down the Band. F Colour and Ideal Cut. Other woman (generally single) LOVE to gossip about it's size in an unflattering light, saying it is way too large and possibly fake. I find it a bit hurtful.
How do you know they're gossiping? Are they saying it's small or large? Because 1 carat is a pretty average size, I can't imagine most people thinking that's crazy huge or crazy small enough to talk about it.
I just wouldn't worry about it. Talking about a ring can only be interesting for so long, they'll move onto something else.
Saying it is too big. Maybe it looks larger as I have small hands. (5.25 ring size). I agree 1 carat is an average size so I don't get it either.
I can tell a lot of people think my stone is fake b/c of the size (although it's only a little over 1ct - but most of my friends/family have closer to 0.5ct or less). Several people have asked to see it and they just look at it and say nothing, not even "oh that's nice". One day my mom asked me if it was real b/c my aunt had said something about the size, and my brother's first reaction to it was "oh I see some inclusions" (even though it's a VVS1 and was appraised as IF by an ind app). This to me just boils down to jealousy. Yes it was probably VERY expensive relative to what someone else would spend on a ring, but for us it was affordable and FI wanted to spend what he did on it. If people are talking sh*t about your ring, they likely have nothing better to do (poor them!). Also, congrats on your engagement and that Tacori setting is STUNNING!
Thanks for the wishes and a compliment on my setting!
The same thing happens to me. People want to see my ring (even want to take a second look at it) and say NOTHING. I don’t get it. In the past, if someone showed me their ring and even if it wasn’t my style/taste I would find something positive to say about it. I feel Co- Workers, who I thought were my friends talk behind my back and don’t even wish me a congratulations. We have only been engaged for 2 weeks so hopefully this will wear off soon.
@LC3636: I will have a ring in the 1 carat range and I think it is too small. It sounds silly for people to be jealous of something so practical. I envy Khloe Kardashian's ring but its like 10 carats;0) Ignore the silly remarks, your ring is nice but nothing to be catty about.
It sounds like jealousy, I just don't understand any other reason why anyone would make ANY negative comment about an engagement ring. I've seen some rings that were REALLY far far FAR away from my taste, but I still look at them and think "Oh how sweet, two people fell in love and are getting married". You know?
And I agree 1 carat is a totally average and normal size. Depending on where you live it could be considered large, but I think in most areas it is average or small. Hey I have a 2 carat diamond and a size 3 finger and I had a friend say mine was small :) I just ignore the comments honestly because the ring is a thing, yes, but it represents something more important which is the love DH and I have for each other. There's almost nothing anyone could say that would make me feel bad about it. And if people want to give it a deer in headlights stare, that's their problem because they were obviously raised in a barn.
Your ring sounds beautiful! I'm with the others in that it sounds like jealously. Just try to let their comments roll off of your back and enjoy your gorgeous ring!
are these people your friends? I don't think I could be friends with such petty people.
I'm not at all religious, but there is one creed I do believe in (in certain situations, that is): turn the other cheek.
Wow, I could have written this post myself. I too have the 2620 with pave band, and a 0.96 (or something in that ballpark) centre stone on a 4.75 size finger and have generally received great compliments but I've also received super rude ones too. Once of which was a girl asking ME to see it (I didn't offer it up myself even) and after seeing it, she grabbed her friends arm and whispered in her ear and then said NOTHING to me?! I was so in shock that it happened. I've never asked to see someone's ring and not commented on it, whether I liked it or not. I've also had some of my closest friends not even ask to see it after they notice it from accross a table which I thought was also odd, even if I could see one of my closest friends ring accross a table I would DEFINITELY ask to see it closer and gush over it/be excited with them. I truly feel hurt that I put forth so much effort being excited for my friends when they got engaged and really have received nothing in return. I feel like I can't even talk about my wedding around them.
Anyways that got a little off topic, but I totally hear ya sister. Must be something about this design!
Let's enjoy them together and see a picture of yours!!
I have a 1.2 carat diamond with an very intricate cathedral setting. It's extremely hard to miss it on my small finger. I haven't heard anyone talk behind my back about it. I think it's the perfect size, but I have nothing to compare it to. People have joked with me about how big it is, but for the most part they think it's beautiful and they love it... and are trying to figure out how my FI paid for it. Baha, it's called saving money :)
nobody has ever expressed any jealousy, distaste, or anything bad about my ring. I've only gotten compliments on it. I'm sorry this happens to you ladies!
Thanks Ladies for your posts!!
Miss Sawyer…Our story sounds identical! The exact same scenerio where friends/co-workers have asked to see my ring (twice in some instances) and make no comment on it. I just don’t get it. How can you ask to see someone’s engagement ring (symbol of two people’s love for each other) and not say anything nice about it. I have seen many engagement rings that are not my taste at all but I would still find something nice to say and be excited with them. My feelings have been REALLY hurt too, where some days it actually has taken away from this exciting time for me. (Which I will say, I have waited a long time to find the love of my life and I deservie this! lol!) I agree with you that I don’t’ even want to discuss the wedding with friends who made me feel this way. The one good thing that has come out of this is I have seen who my true friends are.
Yes, what is it with this design! Did you pick this setting out yourself or did your fiancé choose it all by himself?
Here is a pic of mine...Post yours! I wonder if we are ring twins!
Jealousy!
My FSIL made some rude comments about my ring the first time she saw it. "I guess I just prefer quality over quantity" was my personal favorite. This comment was made soon after she asked if FI and I would ever consider going on the Biggest Loser so by that point I was pretty much breathing fire.
What a horrible thing to say! It seems like people don't have any class. How did you respond to that?
FI and I shopped together and I pointed out a few that I like (3 or 4 I think?) and this was one of them but he chose. Here she is!
My center stone is also just over a carat, but the setting makes it look larger. We just went out with a bunch of friends last night, and while they complimented me on it, I could tell they thought it was big. I found myself telling them the setting makes it look so, especially in a dark bar. Here she is - He just proposed two days ago, so I'm still completely hypnotized by her!
some chick asked me what size my rock was and after i told her she told me that i must have fat fingers because it looks small.. i have boney fingers. thanks bitch.
@CookieBee: No way. I'm sorry, I'm laughing. That's just too funny. I have a sapphire. I've had folks look at it and go 'Why did you get this?' 'Did you ask for this?' 'Wait, so this is your true engagement ring?' 'Well, thank God at least IT'S your birthstone!' and the list goes on and on. None of them are my close friends though.
@bRooklynRocks: lol no worries i laugh and retell the story so i'm not mad! It was some stranger i met in a club on line for the bathroom and i think she wanted to get me riled up or something (she even prompted her friend to make the same comment!) but after she told me that she had a son but no husband i told her i wished she could find a man who makes her as happy as my fiance makes me and she shut right up.
I wouldn't let the comments get to you. There will always be good and bad comments no matter what size diamond you have. All that matters is that you love it. Personally, I think it sounds beautiful! Wear it proudly & show it off!
I have the Tacori 2620 with the plain band and I think part of it is the ring design.
Its a really intricate setting that probably looks a lot more expensive to begin with, but the "bloom" design of the halo I think makes the stone look much bigger than it is. The 2620 is very unique in that its a rounded square halo made to accomodate a round brilliant stone. Round solitaires make the stone look much bigger in comparison to other stone shapes, and the way the rounded square of the "bloom" halo hugs your center stone, it makes it look like its bursting out of the setting. Also, the basket on the setting (the part that cups your stone from the bottom) has a wider stance, so the stone looks nice and big and wide from the side too, instead of being fine and pointy. All of these factors come together to make your setting look like you have a big, fat stone sitting in a very dainty, feminine setting.
Haters are gonna hate and I'm sorry you and Miss Sawyer have been getting rude comments from people, but you gotta shrug it off. Its not your fault your ring looks huge. You just got a smart fiance. ;-)
Here's mine:
girls can be jealous and just ignorant a lot of times! (well not all of them..but we all have our days lol) Don't worry about it. some people are just idiots and love to have something to say about everything..and your ring is beautiful! all of them on here are!
I have a 3ct. moissanite which will be set into a halo lol can't WAIT so hear some of the shit I'm gonna get for that! :P
I have a 1ct solitaire and I've had multiple people ask me if it's real or not... and then when I say it is they ask how I know... 1 ct is really big for my circle and pretty big for my area but NOT HUGE... and my fingers aren't small (size 8 ring) so I think people are just trying to knock me down. Jealousy is an ugly soul. Heres what it looks like... 
Someone once said my ring looked like glass...I can't tell if it was a compliment or not...opinions?
Mean girls have also called my ring a "hand me down" because it was my FH's grandmother's stone. I find it pretty disrespectful of them. But I've learned that they're just jealous.
Oh and some random guy asked me the other day if my ring was real. When I said yes he asked me if my fiance was a drug dealer...
There is only one thing to say when you see someone's engagement ring, and that is "wow, congrats, it's beautiful, you must be so excited!" I don't care if you need a microscope to see it, or if it's BAM! bling.
Sounds like you've got some jealous girls around you :) 1 carat is a nice size, and that Tacori ring is beautiful. So... congrats to you! and welcome to the Bee.
Your ring is beautiful! All the pics of rings on here are. I kind of have the same problem but for an opposite reason. I LOVE my ring. Its a tiffany ring, princess cut solitaire and its everything I could ever want. The diamond is .25 carats, which I did not think was a big deal until people started asking to see my ring. People say things like, oh...its so dainty, or its petite just like you, or even suggesting that someday I can replace my Diamond! It's really strange to me. I have nothing against larger Diamonds, I think they are beautiful, thats just not what I wanted. It really makes me feel bad sometimes... so I feel your pain.
Girl be proud and stop caring what others think!!!! My ring is huge for me- I am a size 4.25 size ring (I wish I were kidding) and I have a 2.78 carat rock! Of course people think mine is fake and guess what!? I don't give a crap! It is mine, it is beautiful and I am obsessed with it. Wear it loud and proud! Those tacori settings are amazing!
@DestinationMexicoBride: holy cow! I wear a 4.25 also and thought my ring was a good size for my finger.. but 2.78... wowzeers that must look breath taking! picsss please!
@DestinationMexicoBride: I want pictures too!! It sounds fabulous!!
I think all of these rings are goregous and if someone wants to be mean and snarky about it because they are jealous, then that is their problem....you all are so lucky to have these rings and people should be happy for you! Congrats to everyone on their engagments and fabulous rings!
Gorgeous rings, ladies!
We were kind of talking about this at work, and one of my coworkers (18) wears a quarter machine fake ring to keep customers from bothering her too much.
My other coworker (in his 20s) wears a plain band on his middle finger and wonders why everyone thinks he's married.
I said "no one thinks I'm taken even though I wear a ring" (and it's .78 ct and huge on my size 4 finger) and my coworker said
"It's because you look so young, they figure it must be fake."
So, haters gonna hate. Let it be.
Your ring is gorgeous.
They are just jealous!!! Your ring is beautiful by they way.
When I show people my ring I get a lot of "Oh....."s. Some just say they like it, but I have gotten very, very few "Oh my God, it's beautiful!!"s. I even got a few "it looks prettier in person than in the picture I saw." Yeah, that's exactly what I want to hear....
I think it is because my ring is split shank and has no halo--different from what is common these days. I LOVE it because it is different (and it is my taste) but it's not so different that it looks odd. I feel like other people who do not have halos or 3 stone rings have gotten similar reactions. Not that there is anything wrong with those rings, but because it is something different from the norm, people don't think it looks like an engagement ring. Whatever, I LOVE mine and I love that nobody else has one like it, even more!!
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