- 6 years ago
I got a dress from Priscilla of Boston
It’s the Vineyard Constance, http://www.priscillaofboston.com/Designer-Vineyard-Style-51475?&f5=VY
I feel very lucky to have been able to save money for a nice dress. It fits me perfectly except for the length, which wouldn’t be too hard to get altered. It is very pretty, and it flatters me. However, it’s not something that I ever pictured myself in. It’s strangely something that I think my mom pictures me in. I say strangely because it is so different than my mother’s wedding dress which is more like what I always pictured myself getting married in. My mom is incredibly happy because I got a brand new dress and saved so much money. We also ended up saving money on accessories.
My fiancee came with me on the second trip (we don’t believe in the don’t let the groom see your dress before the wedding, he actually believes that grooms should go because it’s romantic to be able to see her try wedding dresses on). I tried on a dress in good condition that fit what I had been looking for and we both really really liked it. I ended up not getting it because the dress I already own is in brand new condition.
I don’t mind getting married in the gown I own, but I’m not sure if this is a good or bad thing. We are planning on renewing our vows when we are older, but this will be the first time I’m getting married. I could look for “the dress” when I’m older, but then I won’t be as in shape, or young, or beautiful in the same way. I don’t know if I should continue to search for “the dress” or just settle with a dress I’m okay with getting married in. I’m okay with it because I’m usually okay with a lot of things, but I don’t think this feeling of being okay with stuff should apply to my wedding?
I’ve thought about secretly going on the search with my fiancee because I don’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings. I think this is the dress for my mom, because every dress that I’ve tried on afterwards hasn’t been able to compare to this dress. But if I did find the dress, I wouldn’t want to hurt my mom’s feelings because she bought this dress for me. I’m usually pressured into making decisions that I don’t necessarily want because it’s what she wants, and I’m okay with that. I don’t know if this is something I want to be okay with? And I don’t want to regret having been okay with that after I’m married. But I’m also just as scared that even if I continue the dress search that I won’t find the dress, or I’ll just end up not knowing what I want. I tried on many silhouettes, including things I didn’t think I would even like and I ended up thinking that they all looked nice. But I didn’t have a moment where I got the chills or wanted to cry. My fiancee was no help because he cried for every single dress I put on, and my mom didn’t cry at all.
I’ve also thought an alternative to the dress search could be finding a different dress for the reception. My fiancee and I met on the ballroom dance team in college and that’s something that’s really important to me for the wedding. I want to be able to dance ballroom with my fiancee at our wedding and that’s pretty hard to do in the gown I purchased. I’ve thought about ordering a custom ballroom gown for the reception so I can dance with my partner, and my coach =) and my friends
Should I continue with the dress search? Or should I order a ballroom gown?