Post # 1
Soooo, last night after watching a movie (Beauty and the Beast..lol) my SO comes out and says, in a joking way “You sure you wanna marry me?” and I kind of laughed and said “What kind of question is that…” –silence– “Of course I am”….followed by him saying “Well it took you long enough!” and I kind of smirked and said “Well I have to leave some suspense for when you ACTUALLY ask me!” blah, blah, blah kiss goodnight and go to bed.
Well this morning, he gets up and I asked him “Are YOU sure you want to marry me?!” and he immediately said “Absolutely!” and then again there was silence….followed by him grumbling repeating what I had said about needing to leave some suspense for when he finally does ask and then he laughed.
THAT’S when it happened…..he opened the flood gates!!!
Then I couldn’t help but ask a few questions…(I know I know, I was keeping quiet and actually starting to do a good job)…So I asked him if he had thought about it any more and he said “everyday” So I asked if he planned anything…or if he knew when and he said NO! At that point I was being playful with my responses but he could tell I was trying to get my point across. I probed a bit more asking if he narrowed it down any…and he said “I told you I have some ideas, I’m just not sure which day would be the best” and I think i followed up by saying something along the lines of “well you better think, think, think because usually that happens before people plan their wedding!” and he just smirked and hugged me.
UGH! So he is still just THINKING about it and has made no plan….that’s really annoying! I had to seriously bite my tongue because I almost asked if he even had a ring yet. lol but I managed to just let it end on the lighthearted note and go back into my silent mode.
But, I just had to vent my frustration here on the Bee….I’m a little (ok maybe a lot) let down that it still doesn’t seem like he’s moving forward with the proposal…makes me sad 🙁
Post # 3
OH my, I know how you feel. I had a meltdown when my guy told me he didn’t have any plans for a proposal.
The good news is that he’s thinking about it and working on it. I’m pretty sure my boyfriend wanted to get the ring all set and purchased before he planned a proposal. So maybe he’s just working on the ring right now. Regardless, it seems like things are moving along (even if they’re moving slowly). And you didn’t freak out on your guy like I did, so it’s not too terrible. I hope he’s got more going on than he’s letting on. Especially if he ask an impromptu question about marriage, it’s on his mind
Post # 4
Usually buying the ring springs them into action. It’s good at least that he’s thinking about it! Maybe the next time you talk about it you can give him a timeline, like “I’d really like to be engaged by February” or somethign like that so he starts thinking more along the lines of putting the plan into action.
Post # 5
Be careful with deadlines and ultimatums. A lot of men turn their brains off completely to marriage and all that when you start pushing, and will either go off the idea altogether or keep pushing dates out more because you’re backing them into a corner.
Let him do what he thinks is going to be special for you.
I waited anxiously for 8 years, so I know how hard the waiting game can be.
Post # 6
This was me a year ago and I agree with pinkbubblegum.. I think he has more up his sleeve than he is letting on. Don’t worry, it will happen. I had talks with my fiance and he made me wait wait wait.. I got frustrated just like you. Every time we went for a walk or when we went to the beach.. I was just waiting for it to happen. Eventually I stopped talking about it because I didn’t want the talks to take away from when it actually happened. Then on a random Thursday night he just popped out of a card board box in our living room with a proposal. It was a huge surprise. Not how I had imagined it to go but it was the last thing I expected.. which is what he was going for. Perfect.
I know it’s hard, but try to enjoy the anticipation. The enjoyment of the surprise is well worth the wait. 🙂
Post # 7
I also think he’s got more going on in his head about it than he wants you to know. I think he’s just trying to be pretty vague about it so he doesn’t give you too many details. If he’s talking about it and going along with the playful discussion, that’s a good sign… especially because HE brought it up. I’d say you had a good conversation, and I wouldn’t consider any of it bad news. 🙂
Post # 8
@LullaLee: That is hilarious that he popped out of a box!!! LOL!! I think it’s really cute, too! And definitely memorable!
Post # 9
Thanks for all the support ladies! It really helps to hear other peoples stories and POV.
I saw him at lunch today and i was holding his hand and he said his name and then “Nice to meet you” trying to be funny and I said my name and then “nice to meet you too” and then he said “You want to be….??” and put my name and his last name! I LOVED hearing him say it! And of course I nodded yes, and then asked if he wanted me to be and he said “Yep!”
I know this sounds promising, and in a way it is, but he tends to make comments like that and I dont think its any reason to think it will be soon.
We go to Ireland in April for vacation and we did talk about that and he told me he wouldnt do it there (and i basically told him I would go nuts if he made me wait that long when we are planning to get married OCT 2011!!) So I know it will be before April, but I was really hoping that he would do it before the end of the year. I want to have an engaged holiday season!! So knowing he doesnt have anything “planned” as in…a SET date and way hes going to ask, makes me feel like its far off…could he really plan something and pull it off in just a few months if right now hes got nothing? lol
Post # 10
From the sounds of things you too are just too cute. I’m sure he has more planned that he is letting on.
Post # 11
I agree with everyone else, sounds like the two of you are great together. I also think he has something planned but even if he has a date he wont tell you and ruin the surprise lol. Just be patient (I say to you but I’m dying waiting for mine lol) and enjoy your wonderful relationship 🙂 Best of luck!!!!
Post # 13
@yellowlinedpage: thank you for the kind words:) Yes, he is so funny and wonderful! And I looove yellow, it’s my wedding color. Have a great day!
Post # 14
My FI and I were looking at e-rings, I knew he would propose, but didn’t know when. I didn’t even know if he bought a ring or not…So one night I was looking at rings and talking to him, and I asked if he had looked at rings some more, and he said no, that he didn’t have time….so I was really dissapointed, I felt like he didn’t care enough about it. The next day we went out, and he proposed. He had bought the ring a week before, but didn’t want to give anything away…..
Post # 15
@Juliaaa –Thats exciting!!! I really hope thats what hes doing!!!
I posted this a little while ago, its an update 🙂http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/ive-got-77-days-then
Post # 16
My boyfriend is STILL holding on to the ring, he bought it 6 months ago…………… Im trying my hardest to keep my mouth shut, but man HURRY UP ALREADY! I feel your pain girl
patience my dear *hug*