@BostonCeltic: I actually found this site because of the Mr. Bees plan and I am going to do it. I actually went to the gym for an hour today to get my fitness on. But, I would also like to say I have been wanted to get back in shape for awhile and this is my time to do so! Love the positivity. Thanks!
@MissKitteh: You sound like my relationship twin LOL. With all of the ‘internal’ timelines that come and go. I laugh at myself sometimes, that is what you have to do from going crazy.
@UsagiTsukino: Well we have discussed this to some degree and based on those conversations money is probably the biggest factor. My SOs parents are very well off financially and so is his older brother. So he has grown up around a very nice lifestyle. When he graduated and went to work for his family company he was making decent money for a guy his age but nothing ridiculous. Well he was spending it like crazy! We had a lot of fun during that time but he wasnt thinking long term. I was not either, I was still in college at that time. Well, fast forward a few years and I graduated from the same college as him with a business degree. I found a professional job (I am very lucky for my job) that pays great for someone my age.
So here comes the money issue(s)- he is trying to ‘make up for lost time’ (i.e. all the money he was spending before, hence, no ‘nest egg’) and I am making a good amount of $$ more than him. He has an idea of what I make but no specifics. We dont live together or share finances but we do talk about them.
I was really frusterated at points during 2011 because I felt like “If I were the guy in this relationship I could have bought a ring that I would like by now” (I have told him this, which basically made him feel like crap, that was not my intention, i was just being pissy)
We talk openly about engagement, marriage, future, etc. and he has told me he is saving but it is still hard because he is still trying to get his whole financial situation ironed out. I know it will take time and he is making a conservative effort I just wish it would happen sooner than later.
As for a place holder ring, we have not discussed that but given his family (being well to do and very tight knit) I do not think he would go for that. I know that sounds silly but I think his family would give him so much crap about it, it would just be easier to save for a diamond ring. ((By no means am I trying to offend anyone with a place holder ring, I have seen tons on beautiful rings I would gladly wear on this site that were moissanite, etc. I am simply expressing my personal situation))
The good news in all this is that I am happy and he is happy and it’s just a matter of time but the WB helps me from losing my mind!