- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
lol it happens. My fi did not catch me on the bee before we were engaged... and i'm really glad bc I wouldn't have wanted to know that I was onto him! haha.
I do think you kinda over-reacted... especially because it doesn't seem like he was upset that you were on there. I would maybe be extra nice to him later today :) Or just tell him that you're sorry you snapped at him... you were just embarrassed bc he saw you and you didn't want him to feel like you were counting your chickens before your eggs hatched or something.
Haha. I've never been caught on the Bee, but I have been caught with like 5 Say Yes To The Dress recorded on my DVR. He "lovingly" refers to it as my wedding "p*rn". Haha - I wouldn't worry about it - yes you may have over reacted, but it's one of your dreams/hopes and men and women alike are very protective of their hopes/dreams/desires!
I agree with Corgi, just be like "I wasn't trying to give you any subtle hints or anything!" ;)
oh man, I can totally relate!! I've casually mentioned that I'm on "wedding forum" sites "once in a while" (haha I've never admitted to being here daily... multiple times a day...). Can I go as far as admitting it's like porn for women? maybe... ;)
I think that there's a few things at work here. You feel a little guilty being on here before he's officially popped the question, since you don't want to make him feel rushed or anxious about proposing. My bf just doesn't understand that it's such a nice environment here, and that everyone is sooo sweet and supportive, so it's not just that it's wedding-related stuff.
If he asks, show him and he may understand why you like it. Next time he 'catches' you on here though, I'd resist the temptation to over react. You have nothing to hide, but conversely, don't be too harsh about it either. Just give him a huge hug and kiss, do some sweet talking, and I'm sure everything will be allright ;)
Good luck! I'm right there feeling the exact same way!! :)
sorry but im keeping this as my secret society, if he caught me on it he would probably think oh here we go again about thehole marriage thing, but ten again i am assuming.
he may not think anything really of it just say you use it as a chat site not to discuss weddings.
Hi Lezlers! New poster here. Just wanted to say that I can understand your not-so-nice tone. My SO doesn't know I am here, and I probably would feel a little awkward if he caught me--like I was counting my chickens, like CorgiTales mentioned. Some of the frustration may be just a function of the waiting process, and feeling no control over the future. It is hard to have the "elephant" in the room, and to try and act like it's not there. This is a safe place where everyone feels free to talk about the elephant, which is wonderful. 
Oh mine knows. He doesn't care. Sometimes I even send him links to posts to show that I am right about everything. Although he still can't manage to buy a ring. Redic.
I know the feeling! I have been a member here for months, without my BF knowing about it. He caught me last week when he came sneaking up to the computer and looked over my shoulder. He was in the kitchen making dinner, so I thought I'd just quickly check WB for any updates. When he came into the room, I couldn't minimise the window quickly enough, so he saw the site.
I felt so embarrassed, so I said (in a slightly hysterical voice haha): "What are you doing?! Don't sneak up on me like that!!! That's really naughty!" My BF just smiled, looking amused, and said "I know that's naughty!" Me: "Well, don't do it again!". Again, he just looked amused and went back into the kitchen.
He didn't say anything about it, so I figured he's okay with it.
You probably over-reacted a bit, but I understand your reaction!
I check WB on my phone all the time. I'm pretty sure my BF has caught me, but he hasn't said anything. I don't tell anyone that I'm on here. I want this to be a place I can come to and enjoy looking at posts and giving my opinions and thoughts and possibly vent. You girls are the best!
He ended up being totally fine. I apologized for snapping and told him that it's kind of a sensitive subject for me. He said he could totally see how I would be sensitive and that he was sorry. Then he kissed me and told me he loved me.
And THAT, my friends, is why I'm happily waiting. :)
Bahahahaha this brought back memories. I was a hard-core lurker before we got engaged. I came out of the internet closet right after Mr. O popped the question, and he just laughed when I told him how excited I was to actually start posting.
Yeah, I didn't know there was a waiting board. I may have been even more of a creep. Don't worry, I bet things will turn out a-okay for you two. Your guy sounds pretty chill :)
About two weeks before my fiance proposed, I finished my exams and basically spent all day watching Say Yes to the Dress marathons and Four Weddings reruns. I was really hoping that this wasn't freaking him out, cause I knew he was thinking of proposing. I actually asked him multiple times if it was okay to watch, and he said he was fine with it.
I also signed up for a couple of wedding and wedding dress sites and I felt very secretive about it, like if he found out I was already looking at them it was going to send him running for the hills!
I hear ya! My boyfriend doesn't know I come on here - I mostly look during work hours! (naughty!!) so I get the over reaction - you dont want to feel like you are pressuring him or any of that. But these boards are so helpful to us waiting girls, it makes the tough times a little easier.
From the sounds of it though, he wasnt upset or mad you were looking at the boards, so that is very positive!
My FI knew before we were engaged. He didn't mind it, because it gave me a place to discuss my wedding crazies without pestering him haha.
Oh Lezlers... Every time I read one of your posts I pretty much go, "omg. I love her!" I always agree with what you have to say and it's always so wise, relatable, or funny! I could have written this post myself, except for the fact that I haven't been caught... yet.
The pending-engagement-elephant is the WORST!! I also am always doing the sneaky bee perusing (and no, BF has no idea I'm on here) with him on the couch with me, completely unaware. I would be TOTALLY embarassed if he knew how much I am on here, and I would pretty much DIE if he knew I was the waiting board listkeeper. OMG! Hahah!
I don't think I realized until you wrote this that the reason why I'm so concerned about keeping my bee activity private at this point is because it really is an outlet, like you said, that is one of the few things keeping the engagement anxiety under wraps, and away from my guy. I don't want him to wrongly get the impression that I'm a wedding-obsessed pre-bridezilla, or worse, trying to put the pressure on him, but I do still feel the need to let out my anticipation and feelings about the whole thing and this definitely serves that purpose.
I'm glad your guy was so understanding when you explained things to him. I hope mine will be too, when the time comes when I inevitably will get caught!
Oh, I just love this! No, I don't think SO knows I'm on here, although he did use my laptop earlier tonight, and I looked over his shoulder and saw that he was viewing the "history" on the browser. He didn't ask what "wedding bee" was, though. I think he was looking for a hotel website, so I wonder if it even registered in his brain.
I like it as my secret, for now.
Although, we were traveling back from a little mini vacay last week, and I totally bought Bride magazine at the airport (as I ALWAYS do...at least, when he's not with me). As I paid for it, I said" "please don't freak. I like to read it when I fly."
He just kissed me and said "crazy monkey".
hee hee
Im addicted to WB!!!! I check it like its my mail or something. Im here all the time and I just love it. FI doesnt know im here, he wouldnt care really. But since I share everything with him I dont really want to tell him about it cause I dont want him to be checking what i do and what i post. There's a lot of things going on here that he should know nothing about!!
Love Wedding Bee!!!
I too check the bee while sitting on the couch next to the boyfriend. He's asked a few times what I'm looking and I simply tell him "nothing you're interested in". He knows that's code for wedding stuff. I do believe I've mentioned a wedding forum before, so he may know something of it. And the other day he caught me while I was looking at the rings board, and saw someone's picture of their e-ring and asked whose ring it is. I said I don't know, it's on some wedding board.
I'm sure he's not surprised as I spent a lot of time researching ideas and styles of rings before we designed something. What he doesn't know ANYTHING about is the "waiting" boards.
My FI totally knew all about Weddingbee before we got engaged! He was the one who said, you have to go on weddingbee and tell them all about it!
My BF saw it one time when I was on and gave me this quizzical look. I told him that someone on my facebook had posted a link. He just say "ok" and walked off. He probably could careless, but I still felt awkward bc we don't talk about marriage that often.
I always came on here before I was engaged. At first I would hide it not wanting him to know, not wanting to make things awkward. Then one day he basically said that he didn't know why i tried to hide it all the time....lol, I realised then that he may act oblivious....but he's not!! :)
After that he would make digs about it, but just out of fun. And I was like, well good, I can go on more now without having to be sneeky :D
Mine teases me about being on the forums all the time. I didn't discover forums, though, until after we got engaged.
I was caught on Wedding Bee all the time before I was engaged. When asked I would say, I know it says "Wedding", but it's really more of a party planning site. Haha! He knew I was full of it, and didn't really care.
My fiancé knew that I've been salivating over wedding stuff since I was about 10 years old, so when he saw me on the Bee, he just took it in stride. My close girlfriends and roommates knew, too, since we would chat about our dream weddings. I always felt embarrassed to admit it to anyone else, however. And I worried about looking silly if we broke up... You probably over reacted a bit, but it doesn't seem like it's a deal breaker- wedding dreaming is just something a lot of girls do!
Side note: Now that we're actually engaged, the FI is actually happy that I've been planning forever because I make suggestions based on all the cool projects other bees are doing!
why, thank ya! Better be careful, or you'll make my huuuuge head even bigger! Thank you again for keeping the list, it's fantastic.
So I don't feel so bad now about being addicted to these boards (thanks, girls!) Last night I was looking again and he said "on those boards again, huh?" Without saying a word I gave him a "yes, AAAAAND?" look. He just responded "it's totally okay, I don't mind it at all!" Then he paused and asked "wait, you're not ranting about ME are you???"
Heh. Of course not, dear.
LOL this post makes me laugh because even though I'm now married, I am still on Weddingbee all the time (actually even more than I was before we were married) and it makes me feel guilty/embarassed when my husband catches me looking at it. He thinks it's funny though. Or at least he does for now - we'll see if he still thinks it's funny if I'm looking at Weddingbee a year from now. Haha!
My SO knows, and doesn't care. His sister is getting married and is doing all kinds of nutty things, so often he'll ask ME to go on my "wedding blogger site" and see what things are supposed to be like. It's so hilarious and cute, we're going to get engaged by the end of this year, and he's excited about planning a wedding and getting married. Who knew they actually existed? :P We're waiting because I wanted to, he wanted to get married after 6 months! Hahaha, talk about role reversal!
I am on this board and also one on iVillage. My boyfriend doesn't know that I'm on this one, and I don't think he knows I'm on the iVillage one. It's my outlet to post about things (and my frustrations about him). That is one of the good parts about being in a LDR right now...he never uses my computer, so he can't see what I'm looking at! :-) I would be embarassed if he knew that I was on these so much. I don't want him to think I'm just obsessed! Just...excited about what's to come :-).
I got caught with one of my dating books (The Surrendered Single: a practical guide for finding and marrying the man who's right for you) that I'd left in the bathroom. ARRGH! That was awhile ago haha! Never leave books around with the word "marry" in the title when you've been dating for less than 6 months...
I was embarrassed but neither of us said anything and I just acted like nothing had happened.
Haha my bf knows nothing about it. Someday I'll tell him (he knows I've been researching ring settings/prongs) but for now, NO.
Hi! New poster here!! My b/f has no clue either. He knows that I like to visit wedding websites sometimes, or google some stuff, but he has no clue. He wouldn't care if he found out, but I'd be pretty embarassed about it lol!
Gwen von D
Haha, the BF knows, I send him links to things that are appropriate and he thinks I should have more posts "for the amount of time you spend on that site"
my guy learned about the 'bee because i was wearing my weddingbee tshirt during a webchat and forgot. he started asking questions when he saw the shirt. lol. but he doesn't mind. it gave me an outlet and he didn't feel any pressure from it. in fact, i think he was kind of relieved. haha. i was actually using his computer to surf the 'bee for a bit while i was visiting him the past couple of weeks!
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MrsOliveBird | 11 |
| aussiebee | 10 |
| janetsnakehole | 8 |
| ticatica | 7 |
| j_jaye | 5 |
| Rivendeler | 5 |
| simpleandchic | 4 |
| kat2014 | 4 |
| Scottish_lassie | 4 |
| MrsMSmith | 4 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| Scottish_lassie | 4 |
| aussiebee | 2 |
| MrsOliveBird | 1 |
| kat2014 | 1 |
| miss_blondie86 | 1 |
| TKR | 1 |
Aw man. So I'm on the Bee a lot. A LOT. What can I say, I like it here. You gals are awesome. I've been really good lately about not talking about engagement stuff at all. Whenever I get the itch, I quietly log onto the Bee and I'm good. Half the time I'm right next to him on the couch, he doesn't even notice. So this morning I'm at the kitchen table on the Bee, typing away. BF walks up behind me and goes "what's that site you're on? The WEDDING BEE???" I tell him "um, yeah, I'm on here all the time. What, I can't even go on the wedding bee site? Seriously?" He responds "no, that's not what I'm saying. What is it? Where'd you find it?" all concerned-like. I tell him in maybe what could be later described as a bitchier-than-totally-necessary tone "it's the wedding bee. All girls know about the wedding bee. There's stuff on here other than wedding stuff. What, I can't even go on a message board? *heavy sigh, sideways glare*"
He responds "I'm just teasing you" and scampers off into the office. Now I feel like a jerk. I work so hard at keeping my proposal anxiety under control and not bringing up anything wedding related and I guess having him give me crap about one of my few outlets just hit a nerve. I know he's saving up for a ring and that a proposal should be coming within the year, but I hate having it be this elephant in the room we can't even discuss.
How many Bees' BFs know they cruise these boards? Do they give you crap about it? Did I overreact? I was doing so well, too! :(