Post # 1
So, my best friend got engaged on st. patties day…she did have quite a bit to drink that night and we did kind of bar hop a little…but when we got to the last place she asked me to be her Maid/Matron of Honor, and I was like sure, but asked her if she think her sister would mind and she said NOO…and she said her only concern was that I might not have time and I said no, not a problem. She seemd pretty coherent…but I actually had planned on asking her to rethink it since she had a few drinks when she popped that question.
I hadn’t seen her since but we are going to the wedding expo tomorrow and I was planning on discussing it with her more then…but she texts me earlier to day and said
“Will you by one of my bridesmaids!?” lol..seriulsy did she just totally forget a whole coversation we had or is this her passive way of demoting me?
I just said “of course, whatever you need”….but should I have said something? or should I sitll say something? I guess it really doesn’t matter to me if I’m MoH or not, the idea of it is kind of scary, I’ve never been in a wedding in my entire life.
Yeah, I was planning on giving her an out and being totally okay with it if she chose to do that, but I can’t help but fell sort of “fired”…lol..should I say something to her or let it lie?
Post # 3
I understand why you feel demoted but I wouldn’t say anything to her. Her sober decision is likely the most appropriate for her and bringing it up might make her feel guilty. However, if she asked you, drunk or not, it’s clear that she considers you her best friend. Most likely, at the time, she was thinking about how much she values you as a friend and asking you to be Maid/Matron of Honor seemed like the best way to say that in her moment of excitement. Chances are, once she thought about it, she realized that sisters usually fill that role and maybe her sister would be hurt by not being made Maid/Matron of Honor. Try not to take it as a demotion. Just take the whole thing as a compliment!
Post # 4
This seems like the sort of thing you could bust her chops about in a few years. For now, just pretend like the Maid/Matron of Honor thing never happened. She was probably in one of those drunk, emotional moments that can be quite embarassing when you’re reminded of them when sober.
Post # 5
Haha, to be honest, I’d probably say something, but it would be very light and joking. I might answer a question with, “Oh sure….now that I’ve been demoted!” and then explain what she had said. My friends and I tease each other, though, and would get a giggle out of it (as long as it was clear that no feelings were hurt). You know her best!
Post # 6
Yeah, I wouldn’t mention it. It would probably just make her feel bad. Be glad you’re a bridesmaid & don’t worry about it–besides, there’s lots of stress involved with being a Maid/Matron of Honor, including planning showers/bachelorette parties, etc. Be glad you don’t have to do that too 😉