Got Engaged. Two Days Later, Mom Diagnosed with Cancer

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@sewn:  First, congratations on your engagement. It sounds like he is a wonderful man and that your in laws are amazing, as they all came together to help plan the wedding so quickly.  Second, I am so very sorry about your mother and will pray for your family.  It is a wonderful blessing that you have the chance to get married with her there, and I think you are wise, brave, and doing the right thing.  It’s okay to be sad, who wouldn’t be, but you should also be very proud of yourself. You sound amazingly strong, and are handling this in a way that I am certain brings your mother much joy.

Post # 4
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so sorry about your mother. Cancer is an ugly disease and it is so sad that she is going through this. I definitely think you are doing the right thing by planning yiur wedding so your mother can be there. Both of your families sound wonderful for helping plan and understanding the situation. Even though your wedding won’t be filled with all things DIY it will be filled with love and that is clearly more important to you. 

Feel free to come vent whenever you need to. And keep us updated 🙂

Post # 5
595 posts
Busy bee

I am so sorry to read of your situation, and I’m glad you have the Bee to help get you through this, both with practical advice for the wedding, and emotional support in the days to come.  I highly recommend the book “A Practical Wedding” which has some great chapters on planning a wedding in the midst of a situation like yours.  Perhaps you could consider holding a small wedding in time for your mother to be part of it, and host a later reception where you celebrate with all the guests you would have loved to invite to the ceremony.  You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.  Big hugs from Texas!

Post # 6
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I’m glad you got to witness such a special moment between your FI and your mother.

Post # 7
1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m so sorry about your mother’s illness. But congratulations on your engagement, your FI sounds really sweet and what wonderfully supportive future inlaws you have! I’m glad your mother will get to see you get married, you’ve made a great decision! You can always renew your vows later and have a big party that you can DIY from start to finish. Big hugs, you are so brave and I just know that you will be very happy at your wedding.

Post # 8
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2006


I don’t know what to say, words are not enough. But so sorry to hear about your mum and God bless you and give you strength.  What a rollocoster, but still congratulations on your engagement.

Post # 9
2537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m so sorry.  I had a very close, very beloved aunt who was ravaged by and passed away from pancreatic cancer in 2008.  I don’t want to get into the specifics but just know that you have my love and my thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

Post # 10
8818 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

*Hugs* I am SO sorry about your mom.

Your wedding isn’t a shot-gun wedding. You are marrying the man you love, with the people you love surrounding you. Your mom is going to be so happy watching you get married. I think what you are doing is incredible. I wish you all the best.

Post # 12
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Oh I just wanted to send you the most amount of Love. I have no words and tears in my eyes just reading what you’ve gone through. 

Your fiancé sounds incredible 🙂

Biggest prayers and thoughts are being sent to you.

Post # 13
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

First, congrats on your engagement that is so exciting! I’m so sorry about your mom. I will keep your family in my prayers. Your wedding will be so gorgeous, and I cannot wait to see. Enjoy every moment with your loved ones sweetie. <3 

Post # 14
262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts. Your wedding will be gorgeous and filled with so much love.

Post # 15
7531 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@sewn:  Congratulations On your engagement.  I ATM so sorry to hear about your mom.  I wish there was more I could do besides pray and send you virtual hugs. I too am glad you got to witness the exchange between your mom and FI.  God bless you and your family. I wish you a wonderful wedding day. 

Post # 16
1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

Like the other bees, I want to say congratulations on the engagement. He sounds like an amazingly supportive man. I am so sorry for the pain your must be going through. You and your family are in my prayers. 
I hope that your wedding is more beautiful then you can imagine.

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