Post # 1
So all of the RSVPs are in on my side…and I have two friends coming who aren’t in my bridal party. I have 5 bridesmaids, 2 of them on FI’s side of the family. So yeah. I have a total of 5 friends coming to my wedding, out of 110 guests. It’s completely understandable because my friends are scattered all over and I’m not getting married where I grew up, but I can’t help being sad. I just wish I’d stuck to my guns and gone for a small intimate wedding (FI’s family didn’t want). I feel like it’s going to be so noticeable to me how many people couldn’t come. I have such a small family, too, so my side of the wedding is about 10 people total. It’s nice that people are there to support FI and I know they’re there for me, too, just feeling glum about all the people I love who can’t be here. Hopefully on the day I won’t even notice, but it’s just really hard planning table after table of FI’s friends and family friends and knowing the people I care about won’t be there, too.
Post # 3
I had two family members at my wedding – my mom and my half-sister. I had 6 friends attend. There were 66 people total at my wedding.
I didn’t notice AT ALL that there was a difference in numbers for my side and for DH’s side. I didn’t invite as many as DH did, and many of them couldn’t come, as it was a DW.
You won’t notice – you’ll be too happy and having too much fun. Next time you’re in your hometown, maybe get everyone together for a night out?
Post # 4
@tirralirra: I felt the same way (and had somewhat similar guest breakdown/numbers to what you’re describing).
Do you connect well with FI’s family/friends? They were so much fun at our wedding and totally embraced me…this was one of many things that made the day so memorable for us.
Also, I would confide in your BMs. This way they will rally around you all the more on your wedding day.
Don’t worry. It will be great! Best wishes.
Post # 5
I was in the same boat as you! I had 6 friends come to the wedding, and two were in my bridal party! So I sat the remaining friends with my bro and his girlfriend to fill up a table. I was sad to see that I couldn’t fill up just one table with just friends. And it’s not even like I had a bunch that couldn’t make it, just a couple!
Meanwhile, my DH had the equivalent of three tables full of his friends. I made up for it in the amount of guests on my side, but mainly formed by distant relatives and my dad’s friends. None of this will matter on your wedding day, though, don’t worry!
Post # 6
@tirralirra: We are now expecting MAYBE 70 people at our wedding and FI will have only 6 people coming that he invited, two including his mom and step dad and the rest are friends. We used to have a guest list of 106 and believe it or not he had the same amount of invites and the rest were all my family. He was upset at first but we came to the conclusion that weddings go so fast that it won’t be an issue. Plus the wedding is the union of two families so it is a great time for him to mingle and connect with everyone on my side 🙂
I am sorry your upset and I think it is okay to be disappointed but I am sure when it comes you will have TONS of fun 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks bees! It’s good to know others had this happen and were still happy! Deep down I know I’ll be too excited to care, but I’m sad today! It’s a bit disappointing, but I’m sooo excited so I know I’ll get over it come wedding day!
Post # 8
We are expecting about 120 guests at our wedding. One is a family member, my brother. My three female friends are all BMs. Maybe the 20 co-workers. The rest are from FHs family (large) and his friends.
Post # 9
The only friends coming are my MOH and BM. As far as family goes there’s 3 people. The rest of the 50 people are SO’s family and his parents friends. I have made comments about this before and FIL told me that I have plenty of family there because SO’s family is now my family.
Its one way to look at it but it still doesn’t help that much.