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I need to majorly vent! I have spent my entire life dreaming about my wedding. MY husband and I spent a year saving and months and months of planning. We paid for the $20,000 wedding ourselves with not a dime from his mom, dad or my dad. My mom passed away a few years ago.

Throughout the process, his mom was very difficult. I let her invite whomever she wanted, even though my husband didnt really know them. I tried to tell her that we couldnt afford to invite these people, but it turned into a blow out with her telling us she wasnt coming to our wedding and would tell everyone not to come. So I gave in because I hate drama and wanted to smooth things over.

This lady is crazy, and I mean crazy. My husband doesnt have a good relationship with her because his mom often flies off the handle and begins screaming when things do not go her way.

So anyway, she stressed me out through the whole wedding process often yelling at me. Fast forwward to Friday. It was out rehearsal dinner, and also her birthday. So I made her a cake like she wanted. She refused to eat it because I made it with Duncan Hines frosting instead of Betty Crocker. GRRRR. She screamed at me til the point that I burst into tears, and had to go to the bathroom to gather myself.

We had our rehearsal dinne at a hibachi place because it is my and my husbands favorite place to eat. She came up to me and my maid of honor half way through dinner yelling at me because i didnt ask her what place she wanted to have it. First off, she isnt paying for it, and second off its not about her! Thank goodness for my maid of honor who quickly stepped it, and apologized that she didnt like it, and explained that it was my husbands and I's favorite place to eat. She started screaming at my maid of honor, and stormed off and left the dinner. I had quite a couple drinks after that.

So that night after dinner it was 11:30 pm, and his sister says that she doesnt want to do my hair in the morning (shes a hair dresser) because she wants to enjoy the wedding. Great right? So thankfully a bridesmaid did my hair, and even though it wasnt how i envisiioned it, I am so glad she did it for me.

So the next day at our wedding, she is overheard complaining to her family that I am a b****  and how her son deserves better and yada yada yada. It really hurt my feelings, since I have gone way overboard trying to please this women who really has not contributed anything to the wedding at all except attitude and complaints.

We had our ceremony ,and then during cocktail hour she refused to take pictures with us because she was hot. UGH fine whatever. She got into arguments with the reception hall staff because she was ushering people in the hall when they were supposed to stay in the cocktail hour. Our events coordinator was awesome, and really did not need to deal with his lady at all!

So as we are lining up to walk into the reception hall as man and wife for the first time, his mom comes in the room, and SCREAMS at me because my family made a cookie bar for me, and she wasnt included. I could see why she felt upset, but my mom always baked cookies for cookie bars at other weddings, and it was meant to be a very personal gift to me since my mom died. My aunt apologized to her and tried to explain that to her and got a f*** you from his mom. nice huh? I lost it at the point and basically told her to leave if she didnt like the way our wedding was. My husband was so proud I stood up to her. Thank goodness for my bridal party who was there to calm me down, and basically told his mom if she said one more word to me throughout the evening she would be escorted out.

The reception went fine and was awesome until his moms best friends cars window was broken into, and her purse was stolen. So then my maid of honors boyfriend was blamed by my husbands mom beause he was the only black guy there. Nice huh?

Needless to say I am infuriated. MY family keeps telling me to get over it, but I really cant. I;m not one to hold grudges but I planned and saved for this for a long time, and I'm really pissed off that she embarrassed me and my husband, and was so rude the whole time. I have nothing to say to this women, and I am not speaking to her for a long time. i am so sick of letting her behavior go, just so I can smooth things over.

Sorry bees, I just needed to get this off my chest, because my husband is sick of talking about it, but I really just cant let it go.

@MissIcecream:

Thank you so much for posting those. It made me feel so much better that I am not alone.

@AmberRae: My husband and her do not have a good relationship at all. He really dislikes her, which was hard for me to grasp since my mom passed away, and she was my best friend.

I think it boils down to me wrtanting to be on her good graces because i miss my mom so much, and wanted a mother figure in my life. But at what cost? I mean she made me cry at my rehearsal dinner, and wedding. She ruined everything I worked so hard on for months. I feel like such a drama queen for saying shes cut off, but I mean really shes done nothing but cause my husband and I anxiety and heartache.

I really do not know what I would have done without his best man and my maid of honor. Theres actually pictures of me crying on best mans shoulder :(

And thank you everyone for your kind words. I just needed someone to vent to because my blood is still boiling and my husband is so upset, he doesnt even want to talk about it anymore. I just need to vent, vent and vent so more, and maybe go get a massage at the spa :)