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I'm so sorry. I know that must be disappointing. Are they supportive of your marriage in general and just choosing not to attend the celebration or do they disapprove of the marriage?
@riley jane: According to their religion they aren't supposed to have any contact with him (which they still do!). It's not that they disapprove of the marriage, they just aren't supposed to be there to celebrate with us.
Jehovah's Witnesses will not attend services for any other denomination.
At least, not that I'm aware of...
@MissHelen: We aren't getting married in a church. In fact since neither of us are religious we aren't mentioning "god" at all in our ceremony.
....really? Then I have to admit I'm a bit baffled. My grandmother is a devout Jehovah's Witness and my Uncle chose to have a civil ceremony specifically so she could attend. Ooohhh is it because your FI left the faith?
Wow! It's really too bad they will be missing out on seeing their son get married. They are really going to regret it. How does your FI feel? It's hurtful to you both right now but in the end, they are the ones hurting themselves. I'm really sorry to hear this.
It sounds as though he was disfellowshipped. Many of my family members are Jehovah's Witnesses and have been for more than 50 years. While they will not attend services in a church, they usually will attend a wedding if it is held at a reception hall, home or other non-religious place. Thery will attend service held in the Kingdom Hall.
They also usually will associate with non-witnesses and former witnesses. It sounds as though your FI has been disfellowshipped, similar to excommunicated.
According to their religion they aren't supposed to have any contact with him (which they still do!)
Usually, this happens when one has committed one of various sins and is unrepentant. It can be something as serious as adultery or child abuse, or anything as seemingly trivial as attending a church.
I've heard of Witnesses attending a reception only when the ceremony takes place in a church or involves "worldly" rites or traditions. If his parent are devout JWs, they might be against attending the reception if "worldly" music and dancing will occur.
I'm sorry this is your situation 
Maybe ask your FI about it, or his parents if you have a good relationship with them (but it doesn't seem likely if they aren't supposed to interact with him). If he was disfellowshipped, they may still interact with him privately, but they risk being disfellowshipped as well if it is known that they are publicly associating with him. And, if you die while disfellowshipped, JWs are not supposed to even attend the funeral.
Chin up and know that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their religion. I know it's difficult, but it is what it is.
REALLY? That is awful I am so sorry :-( :-(
Has FI talked to them about it? Has he tried to get them to come?? You must be devastated Im really sorry I cant even imagine
I'm sorry to hear that, but even more sorry that your sisters may not be able to make it. I think that would be more of downer than if the FI's parents couldn't come. :(
I'm sorry! The invite process has been hard for me at times as well, when people you would really like to come back out! I would try to focus on all the family and friends who are special to you and can come!
So sorry to hear this....I know it must be difficult....my father recently told me he won't be attending my wedding (due to his own religious/spiritial beliefs). He isn't a follower of any particular religion, but beliefs god is against this type of wordly celebration. It's tough, but hang in there :)
I am so sorry to hear this. My dad didn't attend my wedding either (due to non- religious stuff at that). It's hard to not have family at the most important day of your life.
Why can't your sisters come? (I'm sorry if that was too personal)
@Candy_Nee: My sisters can't come because they say they can't afford it. Which I *DO* understand, except for the fact that they've known the date of my wedding for more than a year and a half now, so I feel as though if they had really wanted to come they had plenty of time to save up.
@SanDiegoAli: Wow. Yes, I would say that in that amount of time, they totally could have saved up.
I am so sorry you're having to deal with all of this!
Yuck. Well focus on the people that will be there and are really excited to see you get married!
FIs brother isn't coming to ours either. He has a community theater play...huh?
I'm so sorry! :( Our issue with the FI's parents is not related to religion, but they are not going to be there for our pictures, or staying for the reception! They are coming to the ceremony and that's it. His dad isn't even wearing a tux like the rest of the wedding party.
We live about 15 minutes away from our ceremony & reception sites....it's not like travel is an issue. His mom is a psychopath & has been holding a ridiculous grudge for almost a year. It's sooooo awkward, I am hoping it doesn't affect my FI too much on our wedding day. :*(
I am so sorry to hear this. At least their not attending was not a COMPLETE suprise, but I can understand that it is still hurtful/frustrating. Luckily, you will have many more people there to help you celebrate.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this.But Do NOT let it ruin your day!
Oh wow you poor thing! Seems so stressful. I would be more upset because of my sisters not attending. I mean a year + should be plenty of time to save right?
So sorry...
dont be surprised... these communists dont celebrate birthdays either...
they are just brainwashed and just be glad no one is posting things like this about u...
are you having a videographer, perhaps you could send them a tape? sucks that they won't attend...
I'm so sorry, I know how you feel. My family will not be attending our wedding either because they are Jehovah's Witnesses. I am trying to respect their decision but it still hurts my heart. I know they love me but are unable to attend. Keep your chin up, this too will pass
I'm so sorry to hear this! I can definitely understand your disappointment. But as others have said, keep your chin up! It will still be a wonderful, beautiful day. *Hugs*
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It's a long story, but the short version is that they are Jehovah's Witnesses and he isn't (not any more at least, he was raised that way). We invited them anyway, even though he told me they weren't going to come. I still held onto the hope that they would.
Well, they aren't.
To top it off, I'm 90% sure my sisters aren't coming either. BOO.