Post # 1
So, we just received our first gift from the wedding registry (yeah!) from a guest who is unfortunately unable to attend. Our wedding is not until August 10, so we will not open the gift until after the wedding.
The question is…when do I acknowledge and thank the family for sending us the gift? I don’t want to open it (so we don’t know what it is) until after the wedding, but I also feel weird waiting two months to send a thank you note/acknowledgement.
Have any other bees received gifts before the wedding? What did you do?
Post # 3
I would both open it and send a thank you note now. You don’t have to USE it until after the wedding if you choose, but I’d want the acknowledgment that you received it asap.
Post # 4
@bmo88: I’d wait until after. Sending it after I think is the right flow of doing things to me.
Post # 5
I didn’t receive any gifts before the wedding, but I think I’d contact the person to let them know it arrived, and you’re saving opening it for after the wedding. Then send the note after.
Post # 6
@SapphireSun: Great idea. Thanks.
Post # 7
I received a few cheques leading up to the wedding from guests who couldn’t attend. I opened them right away, cashed the cheques right away, and sent them a thank you note right away. I’d do the same for a boxed gift. If I were the one sending the gift, I’d want to make sure the person received it, and if it needed to be exchanged/returned I’d want them to be able to do that within the correct timeframe.
Post # 8
@bmo88: We’re sending out Thank-Yous as the gifts arrive, and cashing checks (but not spending the money) ASAP.
I, like you, don’t want to open the gifts either, but you need to know what is in it… so, I get a box cutter, open it, take out the shipping papers (usually this contains the item/s purchased) and write my thank you based on that.Then, I seal the box back up and stick it in our “wedding” room.
For gifts that are “off registry” I have to take the item out to figure what it is sometimes.
Also, getting thank you pictures are a big thing around here, so I am setting aside a thank you to send out after the ceremony. These will read something like “Thank you once again for the lovely crystal vase you sent, and thank you for sharing our special day with us (if they attend the wedding). Love, Gamer and GamersWife (hahaha)” If the folks aren’t from around here, we probably don’t need to send them one of these, but we might anyway.
Post # 9
We’re having somewhat of a destination wedding and have already received gifts. I’ve opened everything right away and sent out thank-you notes not long after. It reassures the giver that you at least got it, I feel. Plus, you don’t have to try to remember later!
Post # 10
I had the same situation, with an Aug. 10 wedding. We got a package from BB&B, but unfortunately there was no knowing who it was from unless we opened it. We opened and I sent out a thank you the next day. I don’t think any of my friends or family will be offended by that, and I’m glad I did because my friend had sent her regrets on the card.
I say open, send a thank you, and don’t use if you don’t want to. It’s also one less thank you to handle after the wedding.
Post # 11
I am waiting until after the wedding to send ALL thank you notes. I want to thank people not only for their gifts but also for attending the ceremony/wedding.
Post # 12
@peachacid: Yes, if someone is planning on attending, I plan on waiting to send the thank you note. But this guest has rsvp’ed no. So thanking them for attendance is not a concern.
Post # 13
Any gifts we received before the wedding and the bridal shower, I sent out the thank-you’s with the other bridal shower gifts. Any gifts received before the wedding but after the bridal shower, I waited until I sent out the thank-you’s for any wedding gifts.