Post # 1
We were in NY this weekend doing a million wedding things… and we extended the weekend until today so we could get our marriage license! This was by far the most “real” moment yet– even more than sending invites, etc.
I was surprised to learn that they wouldn’t let me keep my first, middle, and last names on the license and add FI’s name as my new last name– they said that the license could only have one middle so I had to drop one unless I wanted to hyphenate. I was really surprised by this and totally thrown, since I’d already decided that I was going to keep both my maiden and middle (though in practice I’d go by Firstname Hislast). I was surprised that being faced with this suddenly made me emotional– I actually started crying!
Whew. I felt better about it all pretty fast, but I realized that it was because it suddenly felt like I was losing a name that’s been part of who I am for 31 years. Crazy.
I’m getting married!!
Post # 3
Every State is different (weird rules, IMO)
We got our Marriage License in Florida BEFORE we got married (easy peasy state)
We filled it out as Mr Surname & Ms Maiden-Name. What we do with it after our Wedding is our own Business.
More so cause we are Canadian, where you get tons of options…
I still haven’t done all my changeovers… leaving the most legal ones for last (like my Passport which doesn’t expire for another 4-1/2 Years)
Up until now I’ve been able to just ADD my Married Name onto my previous names…
So now I am NOW Mrs. Christian Middle Maiden Married-Name
Which works so far… as I’m not 100% whether I want to drop my Middle or Maiden Name.
The fact that I am Mrs TTR / Mrs Married makes me the most joyful… anything else is gravy
Post # 4
@Almost Mrs.P: I’m getting married in NY and a coworker just told me she found a way to legally change your name to First Name, Middle & Maiden (as your legal middle) and your new last name. I’ll ask her what she did on her license. If you want to change it post wedding to be that she told me to change your social security card first, then your passport, and then lastly your drivers license. Good luck!
Post # 5
@VtoM: I’d love to hear what she did! Thanks!
Post # 6
Hey we are eloping in NY but are from Ohio , we were going to make a special trip to the closest town in the state from our location to get the license before hand. Sinice you have to have the license 24 ours before you use it, I was wondering if it was an easy process getting the license? If we wouldn’t have to wait to long I was just hoping to get it the day we got there but we are getting married the next day at 10:30 am! Any advice would be great! Thanks!
Post # 7
We’re applying on 8/28, exactly 1 month before our wedding. I’m so excited! I don’t think it’s official though until our rabbi signs it on the day of the wedding and sends it in to get it certified by the state.
Post # 8
@KennedysueC: It just depends on how many people are there. We waited for maybe 10 min for someone to help us, then filled out a form with all of our info. Then waited another 10-15 min for them to type everything up, and then you review it and sign, and then you’re done. Maybe 45 min total?
I could definitely see it taking longer if you go when it’s crowded, though– we got there around 11, and by the time we left (11:45ish) there were a bunch of people. Guessing people were getting licenses on their lunch breaks, etc.
Post # 9
@Almost Mrs.P: ok thanks for the info!!!
Post # 10
We can get it up to 90 days out here and so we did, right around day 85. Whoops, a little eager maybe. It’s nice that it’s done though.
No blood tests, which my parents were warning me about. I wonder when they phased that out?
Post # 11
@Almost Mrs.P: So I talked with my coworker who told me she applied for her license the only way they would let her. She literally just finished the change and was successful by doing the social security first, then her passport. If you bring your new social security card, new passport, old license, & the DMV forms the DMV basically has to change your license to reflect your social security card & passport.
Hope it works!