Post # 1
We got our proof back from the Etsy shop today (yay!). After examining it dozens of times, I only found one missing comma that needs to be added (see arrow). My mom, on the other hand, has some concerns.
She’s questioning the use of both of FI’s parents names. According to her, when Mr. & Mrs. is used, only the mans name is listed. While I didn’t know that, I don’t think I really care. It’s important to Fiance that his mom be specifically named and I don’t think the way we have it now looks “off” because of it. Are we making some kind of invitation faux pas?
She also doesn’t seem to think that the missing comma is needed. I asked like a dozen people what they thought and the results were pretty torn.
So, comma? No comma?
Any other tweaks that we missed?
ETA: Ignore that weird triangle thing in the bottom right-hand corner. That’s from my image capture software. It’s not really on the proof.
Post # 3
I think your mom is technically ‘right’ about the Mr & Mrs thing – but honestly, I did the exact same thing as you. It was important to MY mom that her name be listed, and not just my dad’s first name. So I did it, no big deal. From the looks of your invitation, your mom is having her full name listed either way – so maybe she should try to understand that your FI’s mom would also want her full name listed?
I agree that you should include the comma.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I think that it looks fantastic! 🙂
The only thing that looks different to what I’m used to is seeing it written as ‘the seventh DAY’ – I’m just used to seeing it without ‘day’ in it, it sounds super important!
Post # 5
This English major thinks that you should have the comma 🙂 And it’s unusual, but there’s nothing “wrong” with including FI’s mother. Everything else looks good!
Post # 6
I know nothing, but what about Mr Dad’s name & Mrs. Mom’s name Lastname? or is that too weird/bigger faux pas?
Post # 7
To me it looks odd that both of his parents are listed, and only your dad’s name is listed. It could just be my weird need for symmetry, but it seems a little unequal. I’m totally with his mom on wanting her name on there. She exists, too–and she’s more than just a “Mrs.!”
Post # 8
@bebefly: I think they have different last names?
I agree with you about the comma! looks great besides!
Post # 9
I agree with the comma – when it’s worded as you have it I think it’s appropriate, but may not be necessary because of the spacing/fonts.
The ‘day’ does stick out a little to me, but I don’t necessarily think it’s ‘wrong’.
And if Fiance wants his mom’s name on it then go with it as is.
And it is *SO* strange to see Lake George in print 🙂
Love them! The fonts are great and you’ve got a beautiful name!
ETA: mine are worded slightly differently but there are no commas – looking back in my messages I didn’t use it because of how it looked.
Post # 10
If you’re being a 100% total stickler for etiquette ,then yes, the man’s name always remains with his last name so it would read Mr. W E and Mrs. W E, but that just looks weird, and it looks even weirder to leave her off! I think it looks fine the way it is; nobody will read it and say, “Oh, wow, W’s name should have been with his last name!!”
Post # 11
To me, the comma is optional. Technically you’re correct to add it, but because of the way the invitation is typeset, there’s already a natural pause as you read it. Flip a coin. 🙂
Your mom is correct that “Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe” is not “proper.” Unfortunately, there is no proper way to include the wife’s first name when they both have the same last name. That is just ridiculous to me, so your solution seems the best way to do so.
Have you considered asking his mom what she prefers? I was surprised that some of my younger married girlfriends actually like to receive invitations addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe” — maybe your Future Mother-In-Law feels the same about the invitation?
Post # 11
The English major in me also thinks the comma should be there, although it may look out of place. It just reads better that way.
Also another note (which is totally personal preference):
Two Thousand And Eleven sounds so funny/off to me. It all depends on how you say it in normal conversation, I guess. Do you say October seventh two thousand and eleven if someone asks you the date? I say October seventh two thousand eleven. It just sounded funny to me, but if that’s the way you say it, there’s nothing wrong with it at all!
EDIT: Okay, this could totally because I’m all hopped up on Benadryl right now, but I think the entire wording with the parents sounds wrong. It seems like you’re saying together with your parent’s parents by the way it’s listed. If you don’t list the parents, it would usually read “Together with their parents, Bride & Groom Invite You… ” The way you have it sounds like Together with THEIR parents (implying the next people you list’s parents..,)
Would you consider having your names first? Say:
Caitlyn Marae &
Hubby To Be
Together with their parents,
So & So Parent
So & So Parent
??? Anyone else see this ???
Post # 12
@UpstateCait: Hey there! Looks pretty good, girl! I think you can do whatever you’d like in terms of the parents names. I would definitely add the comma. Would you consider saying, “Saturday, the Seventh of October”? I don’t think “day”is necessary. Also, what about saying “Half Past Five O’Clock”? It makes it more formal and 5:30 (to me) is considered evening.
P.S. To keep it formal, I would say “Two Thousand And Eleven”
Post # 13
I think that the Mr. should go first and I don’t think the comma is needed since the different font starts on the next paragraph if that makes sense. I think the rest of it is great .
EDIT: Is 5:30 the afternoon or the evening?
Post # 14
if it can still easily be changed, i think adding the comma would be good, but i really don’t think any guests will notice. one thing i would suggest, dropping ‘and’ within the year. otherwise, they look great!