Post # 1
I have been wondering whether I should invite my mentor to my wedding. I won’t graduate until December (hopefuly), and the wedding is in July. I will be working with my mentor to hopefully complete the rest of my research this summer, so he will know about the wedding and I will have to take some time off for it.
A little background on the program since I know some are different then others. Its a thesis based masters program, so once accepted into the program you have to find a professor to mentor you and that is who you do your two years of research with for your thesis. So basically you work closely with this person for a couple years. My mentor is very nice, however we don’t discuss personal matters or anything like that, so I can’t decide whether I should invite him and his wife to the wedding, since it is obviously a very personal day.
Another grad student is getting married this summer and won’t be inviting his mentor (another professor), but says its only cause its a destination wedding.
Anyone in a similar situation, or has been? What did you do?
Post # 3
I’m not inviting mine (we don’t get along), but my fiance is inviting his, and I’m inviting the person that I consider a surrogate mentor.
Post # 4
I did, but we were more like family than coworkers.
Post # 5
i am going to. i don’t especially like him, but i do think it’s more polite to invite them. plus i’m inviting the other members of my lab, so there will be a table that he will feel comfortable at. 🙂
Post # 6
Yep, I did! I am finishing my PhD in June and my wedding is in September. We aren’t best friends or anything, as she is over twice my age, but we are pretty close and I wouldn’t consider not inviting her!
Post # 7
I did! It felt a little awkward because he’s my supervisor and all, but I think it worked out ok. He came and it seemed like he and his wife had a good time.
ETA: I also invited other lab members, so it felt weird not to invite my advisor as well.
Post # 8
My fiancé and I are not inviting his advisor to our wedding. They have a decent working relationship, but it’s not great, mostly because the advisor is aware of my fiancé’s research interests, on which he’s published papers and a book chapter, but is still trying to push him into working more in the field the advisor works in (it’s related, but still different). In addition, his advisor is…eccentric. You never know what will come out of his mouth when he randomly walks up and starts talking to you. I’ve had to hear about his health problems and the time he ate a whole plate of brownies his college roommate had laced with several types of drugs. That could get awkward for everybody pretty fast.
Post # 9
I’m not. I’m a non traditional student, since I also work full time 1.5 hours away. And our wedding is 3 hours from campus.
Post # 10
FI’s mentor will probably be invited. He will be in his fourth year the year of the wedding, and I’m sure they will be close by then. the wedding is 3 hours away, though, so I do not expect them to attend, and it will be a very small wedding (under 100)