Post # 1
This is a jealousy post – better to let it out here and not IRL.
I just graduated with my Master’s. In March. At 22.
My parent’s failed to notice even though I spoke to them about it once a week. When I called my Mom to talk about PhD programs, she actually said, “Wait. So you’re done with your MA? You’re still going to go to school? Huh?”
Ugh. Whatever. Didn’t bother me until….
My Mom called wanting to know what she should get my FI for graduation from his military program because she, “didn’t want it go unnoticed” and “is just so proud!”
Post # 3
to which you reply, “Oh. Are you doing something for my graduation as well or will that be a separate event?”
Post # 4
OMG this totally happened to me!
My husband and I got our MAs at the same time my cousin was graduating community college. This was right before Christmastime, so we were up visiting our families. Everyone was making SUCH a huge deal about my cousin, including my parents! Our family got him a cake, he got gifts in front of everyone, etc. Meanwhile, our degrees were barely a blip.
I just let it go because it wasn’t worth the effort, but I was annoyed.
Post # 5
did they know you were getting the PhD? the MA gets overlooked a lot when it’s just the “middle school” of your academic career.
but CONGRATULATIONS! I’m graduating in a month with mine, it’s definitely work and you deserve some recognition!
Post # 6
@bookworm88: they did….maybe that’s the problem…
Post # 7
Yeah, ask your Mom if she wants an invitation to your ceremony lolz. I’m sorry!
Post # 8
@aliavenue: Congratulations! That is a HUGE accomplisment to get that done so young!
My parents can be that way too sometimes. They came out for my college graduation, then talked about there being a cake for me at home………that was chocolate and whipped frosting. Both of which I would have thought she knew I HATED since I always have. Promised they’d get another cake and do a little party but it never happened. So what that I’m the first in our family to graduate from college.
Ok, that all sounds really stupid, but when you consider that we probably would have invited the Queen had it been my sister finishing college, it makes more sense.
Post # 9
Ha ha, I feel your pain. When I graduated from my BA a few years ago, my mom promised she wouldn’t forget about it, and that she was working on a present and a celebration – we should all go out to dinner or something! She definitely wouldn’t forget!
Yeah, it’s been almost five years. Definitely not happening. Don’t really feel like pestering them to take me out to dinner for something I did five years ago, at this point. I’m about to get my Masters too, and I don’t have high hopes.
Anyway, congratulations – I can appreciate how much work that is. And that’s a lot to accomplish at your age, especially! Awesome, with or without your mom’s recognition!
Post # 10
Same thing just happened with me and DH’s family. I finished the requirements for my PhD right around the time that DH’s sisters husband got his MS. DH, MIL, FIL, SIL and I went out to celebrate specifically for him, nothing for me. This was last November. Then, randomly they throw another party for him with gifts etc a week ago because the diploma came. I haven’t gotten anything. I’m a little bitter about it.
Post # 11
Wow, I am bitter on ALL your behalfs. If and when I get my PhD, I’ll be throwing ME a party.