Post # 1
On some invitations, FI and I decided to address families as either Doe Family or Mr. John Doe, Mrs. Jane Doe and Family.
My question is should there be a comma after Mrs. Jane Doe or no comma to read “Mr. John Doe, Mrs. Jane Doe, and Family”?
sorry I am not good at grammar, hence why I am asking…
Post # 2
In the US, definitely, but British grammar is a bit different and it wouldn’t be as mandatory for them.
Post # 3
It’s exactly as Laurenplusalex said. That comma at the end of the series is called the London Comma. In the U.S., you always put a comma before the last thing in the series (i.e., Thing A, Thing B, and Thing C). I’m not as familiar with British grammar, but I don’t think the London comma is mandatory (i.e., Thing A, Thing B and Thing C).
I’m not sure where you live, OP, but go with whatever convention is used in your area. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
Thanks! I live in Canada but I think we follow the British way (I know we do for “our” and “re” like honour and centre.
Personally, I think I like the comma tho.
Post # 5
thelittleone: “Closed” punctuation is considered more upper-class in England, too: it’s ommission is the norm for journalism which is racey and efficient, and presumably has no time for the measured pauses in conversation represented by commas — or perhaps no time for the typesetter to waste putting in unnecessary type, or for the unnecessary waste of an entire en of column-space. Use the comma anyway, unless you are writing for the newspaper, or for a legal document.
And (outside of journalism) “closed” punctuation tends to be the norm in Canada, too.
Post # 6
thelittleone: I love commas. I say use it after Mrs. Jane Doe!
Post # 7
thelittleone: Either way is grammatically correct in the U.S.! I prefer to put the comma after Mrs. Jane Doe, but that’s just personal preference.
Post # 8
I have always called that last comman the Oxford Comma and I always remember it by this cartoon:
Post # 9
Either is now acceptable in the US.
And just for fun:
Post # 10
I’m in the US, and I’ve heard it referred to as the Oxford comma. I always use it, and I think it looks better. However, I tend to be a little comma-happy in all situations.
Whenever my writing gets edited, people usually take it out, which makes me strangely sad. So, in that regard, I’d almost say it’s more common to not use it. I think it just comes down to personal preference!
Post # 11
If the couple is married and has the same last name, you do not need to separate their names completely. I think it should be:
Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe
Post # 12
thelittleone: you should either say:
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Family
just be sure that including Family without specific names may bring you back more RSVPs that you thought you would get.