Post # 1
I thought I had a close knit family until I invited my grandmother to my wedding and she hadnt RSVPd. The date to reply by was 24 October. She has talked to my mum saying she cant be there dealing with “whisperings and people talking behind her back” and has said she cant face coming to my wedding. (Why, I dont know). Im quite hurt by this, but she doesnt know my mum told me. What do I do? Ring her up and ask outwrite whether or not she is coming?
Post # 2
I would just gracefully say that you heard she may not be able to make it and explain to her how important she is and it is that she is there for you
Post # 3
I’d say call and ask, you need your final numbers ext. If gran doesn’t want to tell you why she wouldn’t, at least you would know if she is coming or not, then you can tackle the whispers.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
I would definitely call her and ask her if she’s planning to come.
Post # 5
Some older people think and say funny things. She may not handle larger crowds very well, and if she’s afraid of people whispering behind her back, she may be suffering from paranoia.
We’re at the other extreme; my MIL RSVPd to my daughter’s wedding 3 times. When the FOB talked to her on the phone, she shrieked “Of course I don’t want the vegetarian entree!” Then she sent two nasty e-mails to the bride, with her meal choice a 2nd and 3rd time, telling her how upset she was that some distant/estranged relatives weren’t invited, because she thinks weddings should be family reunions.
Post # 6
I would call her and make sure she’s okay first of all . .it sounds like this is unusual behavior for her?
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice everyone, much appreciated
Post # 8
It sounds like either something is going on with her personally or perhaps some family politics you don’t know about. Either way, it doesn’t sound at all like this is about you, so I would try not to feel hurt by it. Like the previous Bees, I would suggest calling her (or visiting her if it’s possible?) and gently get a better idea of what’s going on