Post # 16
I would not do a fake exit – it kills the party vibe and it’s not even like every guest is going to fit into the photo frame. If you want a photo with all of your wedding guests in it, then have the photog to a group photo during the reception. I’ve been to plenty of weddings where the dj/band asked for all of the bride’s sorority sisters or the groom’s extended family to come to the dance floor for a special photo with the b&g.
Even if there are only 20 guests left for your sparkler exit, you’ll have great exit photos! I’ve been in weddings where the only people left were bridal party and family and you wouldn’t be able to tell from the pics because it’s all sparklers and a few faces you can actually make out.
Post # 17
We’re likely doing a fake exit for the same reason- but it’ll be just the two of us. Since we’re having our reception in a hotel and then staying in the included suite that night, the photographer will sneak the two of us away for a few minutes to take some pictures by the elevator. Could you do something similar?
Post # 18
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
I don’t think you need to have a grand exit. DH and I didn’t have one planned, and we’re really happy we didn’t, or it would have looked really silly. Our wedding went until 11, but about half of our guests left right before or after the cake cutting at 9, and the other half trickled out until 10:30. So at 10:30, it was just DH, me, and our immediate families. We asked the DJ to play our last song at that point, and then we helped our families pack up and left.
Post # 19
I guess I’ve never much understood the point of fabricating things for pretty pictures in scenarios like this. I mean, what are you going to tell people when you show them the picture? ‘And this is Husband and I leaving…but we were fake leaving the venue because we were too broke to pay for photographers for the whole night but wanted a picture of people faking saying goodbye to us.’ I prefer documenting what is. But if a shot of “leaving” is that important to your photo album, then go ahead and do it.
I’m also going to guess it’s going to break up the mood of the party though to have everyone stop their dancing and mingling to huddle around and pose for a fake goodbye. It may be a little hard to get that momentum back.
Post # 20
madilynnnne : loveisbrewing : I like loveisbrewing’s idea. You said so yourself, you want your guests to be included and I doubt every single one of them will think, why is the bride and groom using me as a photo prop? Personally, it would have never crossed my mind until it was brought up here. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and I as your guest, am just too happy to be there to share your special day!
Post # 21
I’ve only ever seen a whole group shot of all guests right after the ceremony. The photographer will ask everyone to gather together, take the shot, then the guests head to cocktail hour while the bride and groom do bridal party and couple shots.
Post # 22
madilynnnne : we are staging a “send off” as recommended by our photographer but we are calling it a group/sparkler photo (small wedding so everyone can be seen in a frame). The reason why our photographer recommended this instead of hiring her for more hours is because she said that there would be TON of dancing photos which would be so repetitive. She’s very honest which I appreciate! But she is right–I don’t want to go through 5 hours of dancing pictures just to wait until it’s officially the end of the night for the grand exit photo. If you want to “stage” one, do it. Another idea (if your getting married when it’s dark out) is to do the sparkler photo right after you say your “I Dos”. I think that would flow better than going outside in the middle of the reception and then returning back to dancing. I think we might actually do this instead of interrupting our dancing!!
Post # 23
I’m not sure why you would want a photo of something fake that didn’t happen?
Post # 24
For me personally i wouldn’t want to risk putting a damper on the party and/or have guests actually leave after! Not worth it for a picture.
Post # 25
Solved the problem! Sister-in-law is a professional photographer and has offered to shoot our actual exit!
Post # 26
We sort of did a “fake” grand exit. The guests blew bubbles on both sides of us. We got some guest photos back from it and they are so pretty and I’m so glad we did it!
I say it was sort of fake because our wedding was really over as in guests had to start leaving (we had an afternoon wedding and the whole thing was over by 4 pm). But it was fake because my DH and I and our immediate family didn’t actually leave the premises until an hour later (we stayed during the vendor clean-up time). We took more couples photos with our photographer inside the venue that we didn’t have a chance to take during the wedding because too many guests were around.
I’m glad we did it. It was our DOC’s idea! I guess it’s just about how you go about it.
Post # 27
I don’t think that I would have stopped the party at my wedding for a picture – once you clear everyone out of the dancefloor I would think that the chance of everyone coming back and just picking back up would be slim….. for what I paid for my reception there is no way in hell I would have done anything that might have caused people to pack up early!
if the send off pic is that important (we didn’t do one since #1 we didn’t really leave to go anywhere – we went from our reception right to the after party and that went till 5 am and #2 our photog also left before the reception was over for the same reason) then I would say pay the extra to have the photog wait around