Post # 1
My grandfather is a very strict, devout Christian who has STRONG beliefs. He can be very overbearing, and hates when anyone disagrees with him. Him and I were close when I was little, but as I have gotten older and formed my own opinions about life we have drifted somewhat apart.
For whatever reason, my grandfather signed up for Facebook and requested me as a friend. Without thinking, I just accepted and went about my day. Later on I found out that he had gone through my old posts and saw that I had posted a link about supporting gay marriage. Well, he FLIPPED and said some choice words regarding my views. I told him we can agree to disagree, and move on, but apparently he can’t.
We sent out our invitations a couple days ago and his was the first to come back marked with a big “NO” on it. I am sad that it has to be like this, but I know there is nothing I can do about it. The funny thing is that I am not even gay. I do have a lot of gay friends and yes I do support gay marriage but I don’t understand how that makes me a bad person.
Post # 3
I don’t support gay marriage, and your Grandfather is still in the wrong here.
Sorry you have to go through this.
Post # 4
You’re not a bad person at all. It’s such a shame that your grandfather is so close minded. He should want to be part of your special day. I’m sorry that he’s being this way 🙁
Post # 5
I would consider writing him a letter that even though you don’t always see eye to eye that you love him and that he will be missed. Try to remember he’s another generation and consider creating a filter on your Facebook that excludes him from anything he’d have such a strong objection to in future.
Post # 6
@Summer12BrideGirl: So, he won’t come to your heterosexual wedding because of a belief? Wow. So sorry he’s being ignorant about this. I really hope he comes to his senses soon. I understand what it’s like though because I dealt with my ex of three year’s family. They are methodists in the bible belt. Oh, it was joyous.
Post # 7
That is so horrible. I honestly cannot wrap my mind around people who think like this, it doesn’t affect anyone at all who marries who!!! I don’t have much advice, but I’m so sorry.
Post # 8
His own narrowmindedness is going to cause him to lose out so big. He’s depriving himself of his relationship with you, and the special moment of your wedding. He’s basically throwing a tantrum, and even if he gets over it later, he’ll have missed things he can never get back.
Make sure he knows you love him and he’s always welcome in your life. And then hope he gets over it.
Post # 9
He’s from another generation. I’m sad to say very many of them followed exactly what they were taught no questions. Could one of your parents call him and express their own disappointment in the way he is handling this? It’s a shame he’s missing your wedding for a difference of views.
Post # 10
I don’t agree with the other generation thing. If you were having a gay wedding, I would understand that. But not going because of a view you posten on Facebook, would be considered unreasonable and petty in any generation. I would just write him a note saying you regret that he wont be there and leave it at that, his loss, and if this my grandfather and he was not willing to come because of such a small think i dont know if i would want him there
Post # 11
I say don’t stress about it..he’ll come around when he realizes what he’s missing out on. The thing that dosn’t make sense is if he’s proving a point then he should cut you off, not just not attend your wedding. I think unless he’s cutting you off, this will pass
Post # 12
I am so sorry about this…..
…I wish people would be more respectful of others views on life.
We don’t have to agree on everything—but we still need to respect each other.
Post # 13
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! It’s really him that will miss out in the end. That’s a moment he will never be able to get back. All you can do is hope that he comes around and changes his mind. If not, don’t stress about it. He’s making a choice to not be there. I would just try to be the bigger person and tell him that you are sorry he will not attend, but he is welcome to change his mind and you would love to have him there.
Post # 14
At the end of the day he is the one that will be missing out. It’s such a shame that he would let your views on something that doesn’t effect him get in between watching you get married but, you can’t control the way he chooses to act.
Post # 15
I am sure he will put his beliefs behind him and go.
If he does not, then that is on him.
Post # 16
I hope he changes his mind and does come anyway. He’s definitely in the wrong.