(Closed) Grandfather will not attend wedding because of my views

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t support gay marriage, and your Grandfather is still in the wrong here.

Sorry you have to go through this.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You’re not a bad person at all. It’s such a shame that your grandfather is so close minded. He should want to be part of your special day. I’m sorry that he’s being this way 🙁

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would consider writing him a letter that even though you don’t always see eye to eye that you love him and that he will be missed.  Try to remember he’s another generation and consider creating a filter on your Facebook that excludes him from anything he’d have such a strong objection to in future.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Summer12BrideGirl:  So, he won’t come to your heterosexual wedding because of a belief?  Wow.  So sorry he’s being ignorant about this.  I really hope he comes to his senses soon.  I understand what it’s like though because I dealt with my ex of three year’s family.  They are  methodists in the bible belt.  Oh, it was joyous.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

That is so horrible. I honestly cannot wrap my mind around people who think like this, it doesn’t affect anyone at all who marries who!!! I don’t have much advice, but I’m so sorry.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

His own narrowmindedness is going to cause him to lose out so big. He’s depriving himself of his relationship with you, and the special moment of your wedding. He’s basically throwing a tantrum, and even if he gets over it later, he’ll have missed things he can never get back.

Make sure he knows you love him and he’s always welcome in your life. And then hope he gets over it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

He’s from another generation.  I’m sad to say very many of them followed exactly what they were taught no questions.   Could one of your parents call him and express their own disappointment in the way he is handling this?  It’s a shame he’s missing your wedding for a difference of views.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t agree with the other generation thing. If you were having a gay wedding, I would understand that. But not going because of a view you posten on Facebook, would be considered unreasonable and petty in any generation. I would just write him a note saying you regret that he wont be there and leave it at that, his loss, and if this my grandfather and he was not willing to come because of such a small think i dont know if i would want him there

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I say don’t stress about it..he’ll come around when he realizes what he’s missing out on. The thing that dosn’t make sense is if he’s proving a point then he should cut you off, not just not attend your wedding. I think unless he’s cutting you off, this will pass

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so sorry about this…..

…I wish people would be more respectful of others views on life.

We don’t have to agree on everything—but we still need to respect each other.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! It’s really him that will miss out in the end. That’s a moment he will never be able to get back. All you can do is hope that he comes around and changes his mind. If not, don’t stress about it. He’s making a choice to not be there. I would just try to be the bigger person and tell him that you are sorry he will not attend, but he is welcome to change his mind and you would love to have him there. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At the end of the day he is the one that will be missing out. It’s such a shame that he would let your views on something that doesn’t effect him get in between watching you get married but, you can’t control the way he chooses to act.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am sure he will put his beliefs behind him and go.

If he does not, then that is on him.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I hope he changes his mind and does come anyway. He’s definitely in the wrong.

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