TO @vorpalette: lol, true enough… and probably WHY back in the 1980s when I got married the first time I didn’t have just the regular old 1 or 2 showers myself. Too many people in my family circle / small hometown wanting to celebrate my good news.
I’m guessing this is also WHY bigger showers are now becoming a trend… in that with the busy lives that Brides-2B lead these days (in that many are going to Grad School, Working a different City or State, etc) that when the time comes to have the Showers “the window” to do so is short, and the time to get the Bride anywhere is quite limited… so better to have one or two giant Showers (over 25) than 3 smaller ones.
I am sure these Mega Showers can be great events, but I have to wonder how much fun they actually are for the Bride who opens all these gifts, the Guests who sit thru that… or the fact that there isn’t a lot of time spent for socializing.
(No wonder some Brides can’t fathom having one)
A lot of what was traditionally “the best bits” has been lost. In that Traditional Showers, the gift opening altho the main event… was actually a short amount of time vs the silly game, socializing, spiked punch… tea & sandwiches… and amazing desserts… and a whole lot more laughter and chit-chatting.
And that makes me sad for Brides today… because I have WONDERFUL memories of my First Wedding Showers… they were sooo filled with love from many great people. Lol, not to mention that they were all Surprise Parties, and the time & effort that went into them were fantastic. And the gifts… well a lot of them are items I still have today… things made or chosen with true care (including a nice set of some of the best Cookbooks of the time… complimented by a Recipe Box filled with a favourite recipe from each attendee… many of these ladies now gone)
I realize that we can’t turn back the clock… but when I read posts from Brides who see these events as either a bother, pain, or a gift grab (the kind that is all about a boxed gift with no personality to set it apart from the next… or the demand for a Cash Shower). I shudder. The whole apsect “oh my God she didn’t get me something off the Registry”… or “How can I exchange this ?” posts make me angry… to think how ungrateful some gals seem to have become.
Maybe a lot of things from the past appear “old fashioned”… but they certainly were far more gentile in their overall regard for one another… so that a Bride was actually touched that the Church Ladies thru her a Shower… or that her Piano Teacher from when she was a child was a guest at one thrown by the Ladies of the Neighbourhood (people who didn’t expect to be invited, just wanted to be part of the “celebration”).