- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So we have had mild drama up until now but here is the newest drama that I would like to get some feed back on. My FI’s grandma (who I have never met the whole 4 years I have known him) asked his half sister about information to our wedding… Well, we never invited her. We didn’t invite anyone on that side except for my FIs dad, step mom and half sister. ((Back story…dad is a drunk abusive alcoholic and never cared for his four kids. Did horrible things to their family. Current day though he is an OK dad to FI’s half sister but still never calls FI or anything just gives FIs half sister a pity story saying that his children never talk to him or care about him…BLAH BLAH BLAH!! I want half sister to hear the truth but no one will tell her)) FI half sister was kind of upset that we weren’t inviting her grandma, but I told her that FI and her don’t have the same kind of relationship that they do. I told her that he hasn’t even received a birthday/christmas card from her for years.
Anyways, FI hasn’t seen his extended family on that side in God know’s how long and didn’t even know his grandma’s name. Anyways she has contacted FIs two sisters regarding the wedding and how she isn’t invited (mind you this is the first they had heard from her in years, if not decades). The sisters told her FIs number and to call him for more information. She hasn’t even once tried to contact us or talk to FI or anything! She even became friends with FIs mom, his dad’s EX and asked her about it!!!!
We have a tight budget and we can only afford 100 people. FI has invited some people that he considers a “father figure” in his life and some other people that mean more to him than some grandma he never hears from.
So here’s the quesiton…would you invite her to shut her up? Or stick to your guns. Blood isn’t always thicker than water and why should we bend over backwards for someone who doesn’t even bother to contact us??