Post # 1
I’m wearing my grandma’s dress from 1953 for our wedding next July. It’s in generally really good shape (I’ve posted photos of it here), but needs to be cleaned and altered to fit me.
The alterations are pretty straigtforward, but not simple. I need to have two “panels” added to the sides so that the bodice fits me, as well as the skirt shortened. I can envision it, but not do the seamstressing.
FMIL is an excellent seamstress, who sewed both of her wedding dresses (married FI’s dad, divorced, remarried 10 years later), and did a very nice job. She’s offered to do the alterations for me, and is very excited about the prospect. And I *think* she’d do a great job.
The only catch is that 5% chance something goes wrong. Then not only has she [accidentally] wrecked my dress, but my grandmother’s heirloom dress too. It’s easy for me to rant and rave about a stupid seamstress who has wrecked the dress, but if it’s my FMIL that makes it a touchy subject.
What do you think? Should I tell her thanks, but no thanks and explain why, then find the best seamstress in town to do it? Should I trust her to do a good job on the alterations? She’s totally capable of this type of sewing, but …. What if, you know?
Post # 3
I think you should let her do it. Sure, it is nerve-wracking, but it sounds like you have confidence in her talents. If she thinks she can do it, it is a really nice way to include her. How wonderful that your dress would be a combination of your grandma’s and your FMIL’s work. Maybe just make sure she’ll have it done early enough that if it was really AWFUL you could get it fixed 🙂
Post # 4
If it were me, I’d trust her with it. She wants to do it for you, and I think its a nice gesture. Chances are very slim that something would go wrong that couldn’t be fixed. I mean, she would have to like light the dress on fire for it to be damaged beyond repair you know? If you get it back from FMIL and you aren’t happy, there is still time to take it to an “expert” and let them tweak it. I would let your FMIL do it– I’m sure she will do a terrific job and she is probably honored to be able to do that for you. Your dress is gorgeous. If it is in great shape, then the dress is probably structurally strong and everything will be just fine.
Post # 5
Well what about this?
What if you bring it to another seamstress and SHE screws it up. Not only do you have a ruined dress but you have a FMIL who may be put out by you not asking her and may have done it successfully. I say let your FMIL do it, she obviously has more experience and will likely use more care in her work then just any old seamstress might.
Post # 6
Ditto the pp!! I’m sure she’d do a phenomenal job!!
Post # 7
I think you should trust your FMIL, especially since she was the one who offered. I don’t think she would have offered if she didn’t believe she could do it. Good luck 🙂
Post # 8
Whew, thanks guys! I want to hand it over to her, and I do trust her with it; there was just his nagging what if, you know?
Thanks for putting my mind at ease!