(Closed) Grandmother has cancer & my wedding is in 3 weeks

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Oh hunny, HUGS to you! I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother’s health but I truly hope her health will be at it’s best n your wedding day so you both can share and enjoy it together. I completely understand and relate the bond you were describing about with your grandmother. I have the same same bond with mine and she is like a second mom to me. My grandma is 90 (91 this year) and FI and I do not plan to have children in about 4-5 years. I do get sad when I realize she will probably not meet my children but I am looking forward in sharing my wedding with her. I understand your sadness but hopefully, you and her will be able to enjoy your wedding without any serious health problems. I am positive it will be a memory she will forever treasure.

Your grandma is in my prayers!

Post # 5
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can empathize with you and you will be in my thoughts. I really hope she feels well enough to go and isn’t in pain. I don’t mean to say this to make you feel worse but my grandmother passed away last month due to a heart attack. Prior to her death I had postponed the wedding and am glad that I did because she passed 3 days before I was supposed to get married.  I know that you are worried about her not feeling well but I’m sure you’ll make accommodations for her if she would do anything to be there and you’d love for her to be there.    

I’m feeling that way about my grandfather as he is 94 and is not doing very well even before this happened. I would love for him to come to just the ceremony and really hope he’ll say yes to coming. Apart of me feels as though now that his wife is gone he may want to go with her and won’t be here even in Sept. and I’d like to move the wedding up just like you want to ttc earlier. I wish I could offer some advice but just know you aren’t alone. I really do wish all the best for you. ((HUGS))  

Post # 7
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8320 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Sorry you are going through this. I personally would focus on making wonderful memories in the time you have left.

Also is there anyway that grandma can travel on another day and stay closer to the wedding site (I know an hour isn’t far but chemo/treatmetns etc can make it seem so far and tiring). Is there a hotel at the site that gran can get a room at and stay the night before and then also have a room to have a lie down in on the day if it gets too much.

Post # 8
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1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

So sad for you…I’m keeping your grandma in my prayers. 

I understand about the wanting kids thing….I’m 36 and have no kids.  My mom has cancer for the second time.  My sister also doesn’t have kids and we hear from my mom all the time how she just wants grandkids….she’s the only one of her friends/siblings w/o grandkids. 

DH’s grandma has no great-grandkids from her 4 grandchildren all over 30.  It breaks my heart that she wants to see that “circle of life” continue on but yet none of us have made it happen for her yet. 

((HUGS))

Post # 9
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

BIG hugs! I wish your grandma a speedy recovery! 

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