Grandmother telling me who I CAN and CANNOT invite – are you kidding me!?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

is she paying? if not, she has no say.

even if she was paying, it wouldn’t matter. it’s your wedding, not hers. invite who you want.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just ignore her. She sounds like a somewhat toxic influence on your life. Just draw a healthy boundary and move on.

Post # 7
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2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh your grandmother… Just smile and nod and do what you need to do. If she won’t attend your wedding because of it… that’s on her.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@ScottsdaleBride:  She is definitely in the wrong. You can deal with this by either A. “Thanks for the input, Grandma. I’ll keep that in mind.” (aka ignore it), or B. “Blow it out your ass, granny, it’s my wedding, not yours!”

I’d go with option A, as it’s a nicer way of telling her to bugger off. Laughing

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I agree with everyone else that you invite who YOU want and you don’t need Granny’s permission.

I do have a question though – prior to your mom’s passing was Grandma like this or has this behavior happened since you lost your mom?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ScottsdaleBride:  i’d come right out with what you just said- say exactly what you said with the newsflash bit. she’s being ridiculous. yes, she’s your grandmother. however, this is your wedding. not hers. she has no say in anything. all she has say in is whether she comes or not.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Such a reversal to read a post about bride wanting to invite more relatives than close family wants to invite!

Just ignore her.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Wow just ignore the crazy grandma.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She can say whatever she wants – the STDs are out, so it’s too late for her to change your mind!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Umm don’t share details with her since you already know she is judgy. If she found out through family that you invited people she doesn’t agree with inviting then just tell her straight out “sorry, grandma. It isn’t your wedding.” Or just say “Yup.” and do what you need to do.

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