- spiral blue
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I would like some feedback from other bees…. My fiance’s maternal grandma has suddenly fallen ill with kidney issues and is not expected to recover. In just one month, she’s declined greatly, her doctors are giving her 3-5 months to live, the family has begun hospice care (which only manages pain, doesn’t treat illness), and the family is flying in from all over the globe to say their goodbyes. This grandma is dearly, dearly beloved and very much a sweet matriarch of the family, and she is also my fiance’s last living grandparent.
Our wedding is scheduled to happen in 3 1/2 months. Even if grandma stays strong, her family (my fiance’s parents) aren’t very comfortable leaving her side for long, which is how it should be. Our wedding location is 6 hours away, and they’re planning to be here for 3 days. My FIL’s are wonderful people and aren’t sure that we should postpone the wedding quite yet.
However, we are feeling like postponing the wedding is the right thing to do for several reasons: We don’t want my fiance’s immediate family forced to make that kind of choice. Family members are already spending money traveling great distances to say goodbye, then the impending funeral, so to add travel expenses to our wedding seems excessive. We start losing deposits in 2 weeks, but if we cancel before then, we only lose around $600. After that, it begins to add up quickly.
My FIL’s will most likely cover any lost expenses, but even so… do we take this chance? Create a difficult choice for people? Have our anniversary potentially align with a death? Energetically, it just doesn’t feel right.
Any insights are welcomed…. thank you.