- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I don’t know if this is in the right place but hopefully you ladies can help! My grandfather was diagnosed with stage four bone cancer. My mom and I were talking and she asked me if there was anything of his that I wanted. She’s the closest child to him and he’s asked her to help him figure out what to do with his stuff since he was given less than a year.
I thought about it for awhile and I really couldn’t think of anything that would be sentimentally significant until we started talking about how SO and I went ring shopping. My mom told me that she had the ring my grandfather proposed to my grandmother with and asked me if that would be sentimentally significant to me.
I said yes and a couple weeks later she gave me the ring with which, more than 50 years ago, my grandfather got down on one knee and asked my grandmother to be his wife. It’s a beautiful ring and I’m thrilled that my mom passed it on to me. It makes me feel as though I will always have one of the best pieces of my grandfather, a reminder of his love.
I’m not really sure what I should do with it though. It’s amazingly breathtaking and I would love to wear it but I would have to get it resized (which my mom thinks is totally fine and she would support any decision I made).
The decision to not give it to SO to propose to me with was made for several reasons: 1) My grandparents’ marriage didn’t last, they divorced after 5 years, 2) My uncle used to to propose to his first wife… they divorced after 4 years, 3) SO doesn’t like the idea of using an heirloom, 4) SO just really wants to pick out something special for me, he feels it’s important.
So bees, have any of you been in a situation where you’ve received an heirloom ring? Did you wear it? On which finger did you or would you wear it? If you didn’t wear it, what did you do with it?
I really don’t want to just have it in the bottom of a jewelry box or on a chain around my neck. I have a very special necklace I wear everyday as well as a right hand ring I don’t ever take off. So I’ve really been thinking about wearing it on my left hand ring finger until SO proposes and then finding some other special way to wear it.