Post # 1
I just recently got engaged and have been looking at wedding gowns. My fiance is very opinionated, usually in a good, happy to have him involved, kind of way, but when it comes to my wedding dress, I think he’s going to make me crazy.
My grandmother has a beautiful, vintage lace wedding gown from the 1950s that she wore when she wed my grandfather. It looks a lot like Kate Middletons gown, or Grace Kellys. It’s breathtaking! Needs to be cleaned and maybe a few minor alterations, but other than that, it’s perfect.
Aside from the sentimental value, I really truly love the dress. I haven’t tried it on, but it is very close to what I envisioned wearing for my wedding day anyway.
That being said, the fiance is ADAMANT that I not wear it..he says it is old fashioned and ugly and that I get my own dress instead of retreading Grandmas. I want so badly to include him in as many decision making processes in the wedding planning as possible, but at the same time, it would mean a lot to me to be able to wear Grandmas dress, with maybe a few modernizing alterations.
Should I completely disregard his opinion and just tell him to TRUST me, or should I search for a new dress that I know he’ll love?
Post # 3
@summyxo: It’s usually my opinion that the dress is about the bride as she is the one wearing it.
Post # 4
I think you should wear it if you love it 🙂
Post # 5
Trust yourself 🙂
It will be fabulous!
He is marrying you not the dress !
Post # 6
@summyxo: I think it sounds beautiful and I’d love to be able to fit into my grandma’s dress.
Post # 7
Unless you also get veto power over what he wears (I suspect this is not the case), I say wear what you want. I also say that unless your FI is Randy from Say Yes to the Dress, he should refrain from opining on bridal fashion and stick to what he knows.
Post # 8
@GreenGables: Love this and totally agree!
Post # 9
To add to what PP’s have said…
He also has not seen YOU in the dress yet. Each person looks different, even if it’s the same dress. I say wear it. He may not even notice after you make it yours with alterations, etc 🙂
Post # 10
Try it on and see if you like it before you invest in the alterations and make it a big issue. If you do like it on, explain to him how much it means to you to honor your grandmother by wearing it and how important it is. Pick your battles.
You can let him have veto over many other things–but I think if you explain how important this is to you, he should understand. My FI and I have a rule that either of us can veto NO, but if something he hated were SUPER important to me or vice versa, we would just let it go.
Post # 11
I want to see a picture! But I would love to wear my grandmothers wedding dress, it was so adorable. Too bad it’s been long gone…
Post # 12
If you love the dress, and its what you invisioned yourself in, wear it! Tell him that you are going to surprise him with a dress and don’t want him to see it or know what it is until the wedding day. Then do what you want with it. I am sure he will think you look amazing and love your dress on your wedding day no matter what.
Post # 13
I would try it on before deciding if it’s a battle you want to fight. 🙂
Post # 14
I would also consider the option of purchasing a more modern dress for the reception and wearing your grandmother’s dress for the ceremony. In the end I agree w/PP and say wear what you want!! 🙂
Post # 15
I think that this should be the dress you want to wear. IMHO the groom does not get a say in the dress. As for what PP said I absolutely agree that you should try it on and make sure it is definitely what YOU want!
Post # 16
First, I would try on the dress. You may love it looking at it, but a lot changes when you actually put on the dress. I never would have gone for the dress I ended up buying before I tried it on. Then, if you truly do love it, I say wear it. If you’re wearing the dress, you should get to pick it!