Post # 1
I have one grandmother with really advanced Alzheimer’s. She hasn’t known my name for 5 years, is no longer verbal or mobile, and can’t leave her nursing home. She was a really vibrant person, and would have LOVED to be at my wedding (I’m the first of her grandchildren to get married). I’m sad that she won’t be there, and want to acknowledge her, but it seems totally inappropriate to do that in the typical “memorial” way. I will probably have a small flower arrangement to acknowledge my grandfathers and all four of my fiancee’s grandparents, as well as a special single flower for his dad, who died when my fiancee was 6.
Any ideas? I could do another flower, a different kind, in a different place in the room, etc, but that almost makes me sadder – she’s “gone” in a way, but I don’t want to honor her as if she was dead 🙁
I do have her wedding dress, and am hoping to use part of it in my own dress, which I’m having a friend make… maybe that’s enough?
Post # 3
First of all *hugs* I know that’s a very difficult situation.
What I have seen some brides do (though I think it may be more of a memorial) is put a picture in a charm or locket and attach it to your bouquet to carry with you. I think this is a beautiful way to symbolize someone being with you who isn’t there physically. Just a thought 🙂
Post # 4
@Rannkster: I know what you are feeling, Ive been there and it’s tough 🙁
You could make a donation to your local Alzheimer Association instead of traditional favors, and maybe attach a note to a packet of Forget Me Not flower seeds, which is the alzheimer flower.
Post # 5
I like the PPs ideas but I just wanted to say that I’m very sorry to hear about your grandma. My grandfather had a very long, slow decline through Alzheimers and it was heartbreaking, especially for my mom and grandmother. I have to make a quick suggestion (NWR) that you (or your family, or anyone dealing with taking care of someone with Alzheimers) read a book called “The 36 Hour Day”. It’s well-written and incredibly helpful. All the best to you and your family.
Post # 6
I’ve also seen the locket idea for people whose brothers/sisters/etc are deployed. A good way to honor someone who is still living but can’t physically be at your wedding.
When my cousin got married after their ceramony at the church and pictures, they snuck away to the nursing home to take a picture or two with our grandmother. They then had another cousin run to have it printed. Then, they had an empty chair where she would have sat and put the picture there in a frame. Even though she didn’t know who my cousin was, it was nice to see a picture of our grandmother and her on her wedding day.