Post # 1
My graphic designer called me and asked me for my grandparents names to print on our programs. Did you include your grandparents names in your programs? I know my FI loves his grandmother and will probably want to honor her in as many ways as possible. I, on the other hand, have absolutely no relationship with my grandmother (I actually harbor a lot of bitterness towards her and would have been just fine not to invite her to the wedding at all but that’s another post). My mom is divorced and remarried, and her husband’s parents are divorced and remarried. There is a lot of tension between his mom and dad and I don’t really know any of them that well ANYWAY (my mom remarried when I was 18- at which point I was way too old to be looking for substitute grandparents). I can’t include my FI’s grandmother in the program without including at least my mother’s parents because that would be too insulting. I guess my question is- would it be totally abnormal NOT to have the grandparents listed in the programs? It seems like the easy way out is to not include any of them…
Post # 3
I didn’t…but that’s because I have no living grandparents. If my grandparents or my husband’s had been alive, I would have probably included them in the program.
That said, it wouldn’t be wrong to not include them either.
Post # 4
We did not include our grandparents names on the program (although I did include my grandmother’s name in the acknowledgements section because she was too sick to travel and I wanted to acknowledge her). I made my own programs and that is just what I chose. None of my research revealed that it was something you "have" to do. If your FI is very close with his grandma, then you could put a mention in for her in a thank-you section if you’ve got one. I think given your complicated family situation that may be the easiest route.
But even if you do put them all in there, in the end it’s just a piece of paper. It will not hurt you on your wedding day if someone’s name is in there that you’re not super crazy about. Trust me, you’ll have bigger things on your mind!
Post # 5
I’m planning on doing it, but largely because we can’t fit everything we need in the program on two pages (we’re doing 6 inch square pages) but everything we need doesn’t fill 3 pages, so we need filler 🙂
Post # 6
I wanted to put my grandparents names in the program, but my Fiancee’s grandfather remarried and it wasn’t pretty. He wasn’t’ comfortable listing all of his (ie – wanted to leave out StepGrandma), so we nixed the entire idea. I made a point of telling my grandparents individually during the day how much they were appreciated and honored, since that was really why I wanted to put them in the program anyway.
Post # 7
I don’t think we’re including our grandparents names in the programs. They’re not doing anything as part of the ceremony, so I didn’t feel it was necessary to acknowledge them separately.